Natural Horse Lover

The Universe and Asking the Right Questions

2012-01-25T11:18:00.003-05:00

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I have been getting some good doses of reality this week on my ability to build an indoor arena. I have been talking about this forever and with the winter weather here, it always builds momentum. It is very icy here, very icy. Lola and Whiskey don't even want to leave the barn this morning and according to Rick, Fosse was almost on his butt trying to get back to the barn when he was feeding. We have been using Sure-Foot and manure to help with the pathways outside but, everything is ice, ice, ice. So, riding at my place or even play time....yeah right, not happening! Well, we do mini-play time in the barn where they run in but, that is a space of 20'x24' (or so). Each time I engage with my horses, I use my natural horsemanship skills of course but, darn it, I want to run, play, and ride!

The biggest barrier is funds. These buildings are very costly, period. Materials and labor makes the project completely unattainable at this time. I have been looking at all kinds of buildings, fabric structures, wood, metal, Quonset, etc. I have even thought about a small structure but for the money, the space is just too small and not worth the investment. Many kinds of structures and designs won't work with our snow load while others are just too much for me to justify the expense. We are not a horse business nor do we want to be. Nothing is simple nor affordable. GRRR.

My other quest, if you recall, was looking at new horse trailers with living quarters. Well, those too, very costly, well above what I can spend and justify to spend. We've decided to stick with our current trailer (with the idea to maybe upgrade our bumper pull someday) and get a camper for our truck (someday) - I'd like a new truck but alas, that is not happening either. Anyhow, with a truck camper (with a slide-out), we can have the living quarters option whether we are pulling the horse trailer or our boat, or nothing at all. Which would make our set-up more versatile.

It may seem like my pie-in-the-sky dreams about our horse farm are all a bust. I suppose they are...I've always been guilty of wander lust and having a champagne taste with a beer budget. However, this just makes me think, okay, what can I do and how can I make things a bit nicer. We have a great deal to be grateful for and I cannot forget that. We have a nice place, much more than most. I have healthy, happy horses. What I don't have is the dreamy equestrian center that millionaires have and in reality, I never will. I have to come to terms with this sooner rather than later. :)

I have some strong (sometimes perceived as strange) ideas. I believe that we send energy to the Universe and that our attitudes, thoughts, and actions directly affect our lives. If you ask the Universe for it, be clear on what you want and if you aren't, don't be surprised at what you get. I believe if we are negative, we get to back, and sometimes 10-fold. So, I guess what I am saying (to myself as much as to you and anyone reading this), be positive, strive for betterment, and reflect on why you feel not so happy, not so awake, or whatever else is bothersome and fix it. I believe that we make our own destiny and that we shape our lives, we are responsible for who we are, and what we get out of it. Life is too short to sell ourselves and our lives short. We all will have bumps in the road, I am not Polly-Anna about it, but we are responsible to stop our negative actions and feelings in their tracks.

I am not negative about my obstacles but I trying really hard to now be more realistic. (Not always an easy task.) A proactive thought will be to put in a nicer outdoor arena (much like I had in Virginia), something a bit more official than what I have now, and get my permanent round pen (a plan I have had for the last two years). I think these two things will make me feel happier about my already nice farm. Perhaps we can find a way to make the arena usable on winter days as well---not sure how but it seems that research on an all-weather arena is in order!

Breathtaking

2012-01-11T17:27:00.007-05:00

This is going to be my new, horsemanship journey theme song...WOW, I love it. I've always been a U2 fan but add Mary J, Blige and you've got one heck of a duo! Take time to listen and watch this video, it is worth it...turn it up people! (My first U2 concert was in Florida, I believe it was in the mid to late 80's, and my parents were nice enough to let me go there with a distant cousin (all the way from NY). If I recall, I rode a bus to Syracuse from Canandaigua, then we flew (my first flight) to Florida. It was awesome, we were there a week, I still have the photos. Thanks mom and dad.)

If you've ever seen Pat and Linda Parelli play with their horses in videos or if luck would have it, in person, songs just make the interactions even better. They instill feelings and emotions, they make people reflect, and are simply amazing and enjoyable. Can me sappy but, oftne. songs mixed with experiences make me bry for joy, for pain, and probably for no good reason! I try to be very close with the Universe (at least my little piece of it) and as I age, my emotions and feelings seem way more intense - maybe it's just good old fashioned hormones, lol. What ever it is, music has always been part of my life (my family is full of musicians) and therefore, I appreciate it, all kinds.

Next time you go play with your horse, take your iPod! (I need to get one...next on the list. I could use my cell phone but then, I'd be interrupted as usual.)

“Music washes away from the soul, the dust of everyday life.” –B. Auerbach

My Journey to Better Health and Horsemanship

2012-01-10T14:50:00.003-05:00

Image captured from a Facebook post.

Good afternoon everyone. I've been busy working away today and almost forgot to have my lunch. I've reheated my Arbonne Detox Tea so many times, I cannot remember how many now...in fact, here goes nothing (turning the microwave on, again). By the time I realized how hungry I had gotten, I was at a tipping point of almost starving. Thankfully, I had my lunch all ready and available in my office. (I am thoroughly enjoying an Arbonne Vanilla Protein Shake with raspberries, unsweetened almond milk, and coconut, YUM.)

Being prepared is so important on a journey to better health, for me anyway. I am too busy to think through my own personal WW journey decisions sometimes (because I am too busy making many other decisions that seem more important) and so, having made choices and having prepared a plan ahead of time helps me when I am running a million miles a minute. I menu plan, such a saving grace (I know, I've told you this already), I write it before I bite it (again, nothing new), I stock my home and office with healthy choices (yes, both locations need the same care taken to be prepared), and I usually stick to my plan (yes, usually I am fallible as we all are). It is much easier to follow-through (and pass the test) when you've done your homework in advance, don't you think?

It seems to me that in my horsemanship journey, I've lost the planning, the forethought, and thus things are stalled (sort of). I can make a million excuses but facts are facts. Much like a journey to better health, a horsemanship journey is a life-long investment, WOW, today's epiphany. I did reorganize my home library over the winter break and particularly the horse section---it needed work--and I have a lot of catching up to do! It is amazing to me how I've gotten so behind in my studies. I have been seeing the horses on a regular basis and doing small things (Lola is acting great by the way). But the weather up here is such a factor unlike when I lived in the milder climate in Virginia. There, I was out with the horses for hours everyday, year-round. Here, not even close! I have no regrets for moving but probably better decide if I am staying for the long haul and if so, suck it up and build my darned indoor arena! (Any suggestions on the smallest I could get away with? Remember, it is just me and mine, no boarders, no horse business.)

I hope you all have a lovely afternoon and evening. Rick and I will be watching Star Wars movies tonight and dining (before 7pm - my new rule) on beautiful garden salads topped with warm, grilled chicken breast and drinking San Pelligrino with freshly squeezed lemon. Doesn't that sound lovely? My other trick/tip to staying on track and healthy - make your food look, taste, and sound beautiful, it is worth the effort. I use fancy measuring devices, pretty plates, I present my food like they would on TV with proper plating technique - usually. Dining should be an experience to be enjoyed (rather than gulping down our food in a few fast minutes). Sit at the table, enjoy your company (or your solitude), experience the meal, savor the flavors, colors, smells.

So if dining should be an experience? So should our engagements with our horses. Take a little time to wear your favorite Parelli shirt or hat to the barn (or whatever makes you feel happy and special), groom your horse (slowly and with meaning, not just a rush to get the dirt off job), enjoy the sites, smells, and sounds of the barn even before you play. And, when you do engage with your horse to play or ride (although I believe riding is also playtime), try to look deeper into what is going on and enjoy the experience in its entirety, reflect and respond, don't just react. Life is simply too short not to love our horses and everything connected with them!

Do any of you have any thoughts or insights about planning and preparation? What do you do? What works, what doesn't? (I'm asking with regards to healthy living and horses!) Remember, this blog is where I talk about horsemanship, healthier living, and just about anything else that passes through my mind.! LOL :)

Below is a quote I naturally identify with on my natural horsemanship journey but, I think it is appropriate in just about any instance. It helps keep my universe in balance, reduces stress and the risks of feeling guilt, and a way to remember that this is not an all or nothing proposition. (Thanks, Pat.)

"Never say never, don't always say always; usually say usually." ... --Pat Parelli

Interview with Cathy Sirett, a Confidence Coach for Horses and Humans at Effective Horsemanship

2012-01-10T11:21:00.003-05:00

As a fellow Parelli person and Facebook friend, I connected with Cathy and wanted to share with you all, information about her and an interview she did with Horsemanship Magazine. As you recall, I've written all kinds of things about confidence and this is another great addition to the blog, thanks Cathy! Enjoy folks and be sure to connect with her if you have any questions!

Hi Cathy, first of all congratulations – I understand Horsemanship Magazine is publishing a series of your articles this year, called “Self Coaching for Confidence”?

Yes, it is very exciting -- I was planning a big confidence text book, but then I realised through the coaching I do every day that a few straightforward exercises are just as effective as a whole book – and a lot easier to work through.

This series contains the 5 key exercises for you to work through and apply. When you do these exercises, and practice applying them in your life, you develop your ability to create and build your own confidence. So you literally become your OWN confidence coach.
The first issue is out Feb 2012!

Do you really believe people can do that? Be their own confidence coaches? Surely it’s more complicated than that?

Yes I do! And I believe that because of the success of many of the people I have worked with: people are now hacking out alone, in company – going to advanced riding clinics – all the things they didn’t have the confidence to do before they learned the tools to help themselves.

It can get complicated – but really one thing to know about feeling unconfident is it is just our brain’s way of trying to keep us safe; it’s the way your unconscious mind has of telling you “Don’t do this!” or “you’re not safe doing this!”.

This is a very useful mechanism to have. When you sprain an ankle, your brain quickly realises that relying on that foot is not sensible, and makes sure you don’t put weight on it while it is healing up.

Sometimes, however, this wonderful survival mechanism gets in the way. I remember I sprained my ankle and discovered over a YEAR later that I was still favouring my other leg and not putting my full weight on the “injured” one! My brain had developed a habit of protecting my sprained leg, and I had never corrected it. If we can learn how to get our conscious and unconscious minds working TOGETHER to keep us safe – then we can make huge steps with our confidence – and that is what this series of exercises is about.

What led you to become a confidence coach?

The main reason I became a confidence coach was because I’ve been there: there have been many times in my life when I desperately wanted to ride, but was too scared to even touch a horse. I realised that all the lessons in the world weren’t helping me and what I needed were ways to rebuild my OWN confidence. This was the start of my journey – which has led to me now helping others become their own confidence coaches.

What’s your own favourite confidence story?

I used to be scared of riding in wide open spaces. So I used a good friend of mine as a confidence booster and together we went and played on a large open area. It was great fun and by the end of the day I was feeling very confident. I left my horse at her house and came back the next day when she was out and ride out by myself.

The next morning I got up, and couldn’t find the clothes I wanted – but I wasn’t at all nervous. I couldn’t find the car keys – had trouble getting them in the ignition, but I wasn’t at all nervous (do you see where this is going?). When I tacked up my horse it was funny how all the buckles were really stiff and wouldn’t do up properly. But even now I was sure I wasn’t nervous. I led my horse out onto the wide open space and my legs GAVE WAY under me and I collapsed in a heap on the ground.

This was a great example of how when we don’t listen to our unconscious, it has to shout really loud to keep us safe! This event actually led directly to the development of one of the exercises in this series!

What has your greatest success as a coach been?

Every person I coach who grows in confidence is a success but two in particular stand out. One is someone who had decided to give up riding – she is now riding endurance with the same horse she had then! The other is someone who came to me because she felt she and her horse weren’t connecting and is now running her own horse therapy centre – again with that same horse as her partner.

So how do you usually work with people?

It varies, as each person and each horse is so different, but there are five main stages most people go through:

Stage 1: an initial meeting where we explore the principles of confidence, learn how to measure and manage it – and make a plan for rebuilding confidence. This session is usually two hours long and at the end the person had their own plan for moving forward, which in itself increases confidence.

Stage 2: one to one or small group confidence coaching sessions to focus on specific issues that will build confidence effectively – this stage can be as short as one session, or it can be over a longer period, depending on the situation.

Stage 3: a week long intensive hacking with confidence course: most people who approach me want to be able to hack out by themselves or in company without fear – this intensive course allows them to put into practice what they have built up during the one to one sessions.

Stage 4: self managed practice: people usually then take some time to practice by themselves, with phone and email support from me if needed to make sure that everything they have learned works at home and without me – after all, that is my job, to out myself out of work! Some people have some top up coaching – others go on to just enjoy themselves with their new ability to sustain and manage their own confidence.
Some go on to the next stage:

Stage 5: Confidence on the beach: for some of us, riding our horses on a beach is our biggest dream, but it can be a scary thing to do – so this is the ultimate confidence course: a small group of like minded people having fun and playing confidently on the beach – after this, anything is possible!

Sounds great – Are you always confident now?

What a great question – the answer is no – but, and it’s a big but – I know how to listen to that unconfident voice and can always come up with way to BECOME confident – that’s what’s so great about the self coaching approach!

So how can people contact you?

Well I am based in Milton Keynes, but travel all over the country working with individuals and groups in different areas.

If you want to know more about me then take a look at my website, http://www.EffectiveHorsemanship.com and there are a lot of articles on confidence on my facebook page (in the notes section) http://www.facebook.com/pages/Effective-Horsemanship/347680369829 You can also email me on cathy@effectivehorsemanship.com if you have ANY questions about confidence or just want to share your confidence story with me.

Pat Parelli's Dog is Missing in Sarasota, Florida

2012-01-09T19:50:00.007-05:00

This was posted on Pat Parelli's Facebook Fan Page:
"Hey Everyone, Last night I lost my dog Sheila at the NRCHA Show at the Triple J Ranch in Sarasota (861 Sinclair Dr.) If anyone has seen her or hears anything please contact us here or on Parelli Connect! She is a 10 month old Mcnab and is wearing a collar with a brass snap on it."

Honesty and Reaching Out in Horsemanship

2012-01-02T11:24:00.011-05:00

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So, my blog is written from the vantage point of complete and utter openness and honesty. This puts me in danger of being judged but, I hope that my posts help others otherwise it just wouldn't be worth it. It is very difficult for me to reconcile challenges and failures in my life (my perfectionism makes these things hard) but, today I reached out to Parelli for help (which means I am really needing input). I decided to post here too to get feedback too. I am really upset, feel sad, guilt, anger, and much more. In my emotional state, I fear being judged as a bad person and bad horse person (even though my logicial brain says otherwise). Below is the scenario and questions I posed to Parelli today. I'll be sure to follow-up with their response. I'd love to hear what you all have to say as well. Please be honest.

Dear Pat, Linda, and/or Parelli Pros,

I am writing in ask a question about a horse that bites. She has only bitten during feeding time (maybe once while I was mounted she tried to bite my foot) but it can be quite a nasty bite during the feeding incidents. She also makes ugly faces as you pass by her when she is eating and she is defensive about food towards other horses (but not all of the time). The time I'd say it is worse is if I give them food in their buckets. I don't typically feed grain but will give alfalfa pellets and stuff like that so to her, it may as well be grain. When I first got her (two years ago), she used to also kick during feeding time. Initially, I haltered her during feeding time and every time she would make an ugly face, kick or act nasty, I'd back her, pause, then ask her forward again and allowed to eat. I repeated this exercise many times and eventually stopped as she seemed much better. She no longer kicked, bit, nor did she make an ugly face all of the time.

She is back to biting and I mean she will reach out and grab you (particularly if you have things in your hands/arms). I can walk with grain in my hands and she will follow me and not be nasty (this is when I am walking through with chicken feed). I've been bitten twice in the last several months and it hurt quite badly when I am either feeding her or getting ready to. Although I know I am not to take it personally, it is hard to as I am trying to connect with her and we seem to on many levels but there is still this disrespect thing going on. She has however, accepted my leadership in other areas (usually) but I have to say that this is a constant challenge balancing our leadership where I am on top. She can be a challenge and I like that. The horse I refer to is Lola and you have her horsenality report on file.

I've unfortunately found myself chasing her out of the barn when this happens (our set-up is that the horses can come and go as they please from the rear section of the barn), I've found myself throwing the buckets at her (that were in my arms when she nailed me), and even whacking her on the butt with the carrot stick in retaliation. I know this must be terribly wrong and an emotional response on my part and it makes me very upset and I because I am trying really hard to totally connect with this mare, I love my horses, but it seems to me, a partner wouldn't bite you like this. Just yesterday we had a lovely session and I trimmed her feet with no issues (in the past, she'd be a total jerk). I've looked into her history and all accounts show that her previous owner was a real carrot person and I can see where she'd perhaps be able to walk all over her. I was told by a Parelli instructor and other endorsed person that she was glad to hear I had this mare and that I'd do well with her and for her, that we should be a good match. But right now, I feel like I am failing somehow and that my response is not the sign of a good horsewoman, and I need your help, please. Would you have any other suggestions? Should I just go back to the exercises? Am I missing something?

Before hitting publish this post , I remembered writing a post over the summer, her is that link http://naturalhorselover.blogspot.com/2011/07/my-horse-bit-menow-what-to-do.html, I have reread my thoughts, I guess I should have done that sooner! Ah, the joy of horses.... :)

Just a follow-up. I went to feed tonight. My mare Lola was a perfect, respectful angel, no ugly faces, light responses when asked to move her feet, she wanted to be with me, all was really good. I guess I did something right.

Another update, today (1/3/12), Lola was really sweet during feeding time with Rick this morning and was excellent with me this evening. I think that when time permits, I will be sure to continue to work with her with an open mind, and enjoy what comes of things. I'll also be more careful to watch her cues and not be in the reach of a bite should that be the case (hopefully not of course). BTW, nothing from Parelli yet, no surprise, they probably are really busy after the holidays.

Update (1/6/12), Parelli got back to me and sent me two articles, one on biting and the other on blocks. I've read it and this was information I already had. Throughout this post and the comments, we pretty much covered things. (Lola and I have been doing very well.)

Happy New Year's Eve! -- 2012

2011-12-31T09:45:00.003-05:00

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Happy New Year's Eve! Any resolutions? Mine are to be a healthier me, to get back at my Parelli studies and pursue my horse dreams, and to have even more fun enjoying my great life with Rick and the critters! oxox

To pursue these goals shouldn't be difficult as long as I plan using long and short-term goals. I know how to do it so here's to a new year full of plans and realized dreams!

“Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now” ~Alan Lakein

I went back to Weight Watchers December 1st (I may have told you all this already) and I am ready to get serious and down to business. I know what to do and spent the last month slowly getting my head back in the game (a good thing). I am setting reasonable goals and am looking forward to finally hitting my lifetime weight goal this year (and staying there). I am actually more motivated now than back in 2010 when it all started. 2011 was very difficult on many levels in the health area for both Rick and I but, that is all behind us now.

This weekend, I am going to pull out my Parelli materials and make a study plan. The winters can be harsh here so realistically, indoor activities are going to be easier than hands-on play time. Over the spring and summer, Rick and I have several plans for continual improvement of horse facilities. I also will make a play-time plan for hands on horse time and plan to get to at least one clinic this year (even if just auditing).

Finally, enjoying my life with Rick and the critters...not difficult. But, I do plan to spend more time with them and incorporate them into more of the things I am doing. We only have one chance to enjoy life on this Earth I they are my focus.

Happy Holidays from Hidden Meadows!

2011-12-23T08:59:00.003-05:00

Good morning friends. It has been a long time since I've posted because I've not had anything to say (can you believe it?)! Work has been really busy and horse time non-existent. I feel more like a waitress and frankly even with that, Rick has done more for them than I have lately.

I started back at Weight Watchers on December 1st and am doing well. To keep my horse journey moving forward, I must be healthy and fit and am working at it again. My back is totally healed and I am feeling great. The program changed just slightly to be a bit more flexible. I switched meeting days and have a new leader. I did this because of my busy schedule. Fortunately, she is excellent, and I am finding that my motivation is at an all time high again.

I did order several new Parelli resources and look forward to reporting about them. I'm off for an extended break from work and look forward to spending time at home with Rick and the critters, catching up on my Parelli studies and playing with my horses.

So, don't give up on me, please keep reading, and keep in touch!

May you all have a fabulous holiday season and prosperous New Year! The photo above is of Morgan and Daisy (my youngest and oldest respectively--Morgan is 3 1/2 years old and Daisy just turned 14 years old at the beginning of the month).

Being Thankful - Happy Thanksgiving

2011-11-24T08:22:00.007-05:00

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Good morning friends. Today is Thanksgiving, a time for family, friends, and feasts. A time to remember how fortunate we are, a time to rejoice. I am thankful for my beloved husband Rick, my wonderfully crazy family, good friends all so far (and too far) away, my beautiful horses, dogs, kitty, and farm flock, and I am thankful for my my life in general. I wish you all a wonderful day and a thankful existence. I am off to ride and play with my three horses, Fosse, Whiskey, and Lola, and get some much-needed fresh air! Happy Thanksgiving Everyone.

An evening update. My horse time this morning was fabulous. I was able to ride all three horses and spend some very nice time with them for two hours! I also learned something about Lola. She makes ugly faces and gestures but, I don't think they are at me but at the boys....another lesson in not taking things personally....but I think a red ribbon in her tail should we ride with others may be a good idea...luv ya Lola, you gorgeous mare! :) Fosse was just excited to be trucking around and has come a long way. We had to keep the ride at a walk because it is icy, mucky, and snowy but still, slow and right beats fast and wrong. He sunk pretty deep as we walked through one area and didn't spook even though we dropped a foot, fast...he's a great horse. Whiskey was funny, willing to walk but I was careful to give him time to think about why he should do it...my LBI needs a patient partner, he's lucky that he lives with me, lol. At one point I went to hand him a treat with my right hand, he reached over to my left, I leaned over with the treat in my right to his left and the two of us got really unbalanced and almost tipped over! It was like slow motion but, we remained standing, hilarious really, very comical, and my faux pas of course, I should have flexed him to the other side or put the treat in my left hand, no worries. I love them all so much....YES, VERY THANKFUL.

Oh, and I just placed a Black Friday order with Parelli online....now that is my kind of shopping trip...Colt Starting Educational DVD Set, The Horseman's Apprentice Series CD Boxed Set, and a few other goodies....much more I'd like but will have to pace myself and my budget...their new catalog is exciting!

I am also [still] in the market for a new saddle. I've been for sometime but I think this spring, I'll finally get a new saddle for Lola--I hope, lol. I am planning to buy the new Wintec Wide (apparently they recently redesigned their saddles). I'd love a Parelli saddle but there is just no way I can afford one. Another Parelli friend (equuswolf--Jen) told me to get the flocked version of the Wintec instead of the CAIR panels, especially because I use a Theraflex pad, when I use a saddle that is, which is not all that often. I tend to just use my bareback pad or nothing at all but, I believe that I should change that sometimes and my current saddles don't fit her. My friend also shared all kinds of other information about her own saddle experiences that were very informative (thanks Jen).

Well, that's it for this evening! Credit card has been put away...for now. Happy days. :)

My little escape artist...and my Parelli-thinking Hubby

2011-11-21T22:22:00.002-05:00

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I am very thankful today. It is so obvious to me that Rick has paid attention to all things Parelli over the years even though he isn't necessarily playing with the horses like I do (or should be doing). He was easily able to get my horse Lola back in the paddock (at liberty) after he found her hanging out eating grass this morning---she apparently is an escape artist when the fence if off---it's on now! :)

This morning, he drove to the front of the property to feed the animals and there she was, Sweet n' Friendly Lola (her registered name), loose. When she first saw him in the Blazer, she trotted about. His first gut feeling was nervousness and he went and got her halter and lead. But then, he decided that since she wasn't near the road and that was the biggest safety issue, he'd first make sure that this remained to be the case. So, rather than approaching her and/or chasing after her, he set the lead and halter down and put the electric fence gate in place, and fed the boys some hay in the upper paddock. He figured if those two were distracted, he could deal with her more easily and I agree. He then opened up the fenced in area so that she'd have normal access back into the paddock (she had gone under the temporary fence to escape because it was off and she is smart enough to know that--lol). Then, Lola came up to him and started following him around. They mosied at liberty and she put herself away. Everyone was safe, calm, and both walked away with their dignity and spirits in tack. I am so pleased that he knew that chasing a horse was not the answer but partnering with her was...I'm so proud.

Linda Parelli's Horse West Point Dies in Freak Accident

2011-11-16T14:06:00.005-05:00

I just learned that Linda Parelli's horse West Point died suddenly from a freak accident. I have no specific details but wanted to post a quick message to tell you all. I encourage that you connect on Parelli Connect or Facebook to send her your thoughts of sympathy and regard (I did). RIP West Point.

Linda---My sincere sympathy in your profound loss. May you find comfort knowing his memory will live on in all whose lives he touched. oxox

Linda wrote on Parelli Connect: "Thank you all for your thoughts and comfort. I feel sad, still in some kind of disbelief. Westy was such a magnificent horse, he taught me so much. Yesterday was the best day ever with him and I'm so glad I have the photos to cherish. I'm glad I got to share him with you all too. :)"

Start Living Life...Enjoy Today

2011-11-14T12:23:00.004-05:00

I read the quote that SparkPeople sent out today as a Healthy reflection piece. The challenge was to journal about it but for me, my blog is my journal (that is the point of blogs you know). Here is the quote,"Stop living life for what's around the corner and start enjoying the walk down the street." - Grant L. Miller, motivational guru

This quote truly hits home as I am always thinking about how I can improve myself and my farm, how things will only be better down the road when I get a new this or that, when I lose so many pounds, when I earn more money, etc. Unfortunately, this leaves me forgetting how good I truly have it. Forgetting that makes progress (think horse progress) almost paralyzing...and I just realized it! Wow, am epiphany...first one in awhile I think. LOL I need to work with and enjoy what I have today, plan for the future, and dream big, not just dream big and hope for better...does this make sense?

So today, I challenge you to reflect on the same quote, and cherish all you have now, embrace you ability to change the things you can and accept those things you cannot. Life is too terribly short to not see the forest for the trees.

Getting Back on the Horse

2011-11-12T20:56:00.002-05:00

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Today, I started using SparkPeople (a site that offers nutrition information, support, groups, and the like - free. I dabbled with better eating throughout the week (which was great) but today is more of an official start day for me (I know, I am crazy). I am starting with the cleanse using the The Refresh Button method (a version of the Master Cleanse). I am truly feeling good and ready. I don't know if I'll last the entire cycle but I will do what I can. The harsh reality of my situation has been blogged on my SparkPeople blog with an entry titled, Getting Back on the Horse. If I can do this, anyone can. So, here's to goal in 2012...I am going to make it this time. (*fingers crossed*)

Window Shopping and Researching Horse Trailers (again)!

2011-11-11T18:22:00.017-05:00

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http://www.shadowtrailer.com/sliding-tack.aspx

http://www.maintrailersales.com/trailer/21522.aspx

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have been reading many, many websites looking at horse trailers (and trucks). I am researching with the goal to purchase a 3-horse gooseneck aluminum trailer with full living quarters (not weekenders) and a new truck. Today, I will talk primarily about the trailer. As it stands, I have a nice horse trailer and truck and both work quite well for me. They are not new and shiny but, totally functional and safe. My plan is to do my homework in preparation for the new, future investment.

My current truck is a 1993 Chevy 2500 2-wheel drive (I wish it was a 4-wheel drive) with heavy duty rear-end differential, heavy duty brakes, heavy duty cooling system, rear suspension air bag support, a big block 454 engine, and much more. Although it is an older vehicle, it works fantastic. It easily pulls my 2002 Moritz 3-horse slant-load bumper-pull horse/stock combo trailer with a tack/dressing room (it can be converted to a 4-horse if I remove the tack). I used to pull it with my 1984 Chevy K-10 4-wheel drive pickup but it is just not up to the task anymore and now is the resident farm truck. So, if I have a truck and trailer, you may wonder why I am looking...especially because I am so busy...who has time to travel!? :)

Well, firstly, I'd like to say that I have no intention of selling my current horse trailer. It is used for much more than hauling horses and is invaluable to us. We also use it to haul lumber, hay and other items, have used it as temporary housing for a variety of critters, and has simply paid for itself years ago. My hope is that my current truck will be okay for a while with a new trailer. My concern is that the one 4-wheel drive truck on the property, although having very low mileage, its body is rotting away (gotta love the north and the salty roads) and I will need a new (used) 4-wheel drive truck sooner rather than later...only time will tell. In any event, I think, new trailer will come first (but reserve the right to change my mind, lol).

The reason I am looking at a new trailer is that we have talked for years about a camper. It occurs to me that since I have a horse lifestyle, having a camper where the horses could come with us would be ideal and about the same cost as a traditional camper. We used to camp with the horses and a tent when we lived in Virginia (if you search you'll find old posts about that). And, should we take the new trailer without horses,the dogs could enjoy the additional space as if we were at home. To me, it all makes sense and Rick seems to be on board (thankfully). I am not sure what we plan to do in the future as the types of horse camping activities are not as nice here as in Virginia (unfortunately) but I do know I want the flexibility to load and go. I have camped with tents for years and I am so busy now, that seems just too overwhelming and like work now (very sad). I never thought I'd feel that way but I do, it isn't fun any longer, I am tired and want an easy escape without too much effort. I also like the idea of having living quarters when we travel to visit family out of town, particularly because we travel with our dogs.

I have looked at new, used, and even dealer repossessed models from a variety of sources. I have discovered companies I never heard of...it can almost be overwhelming but to me, it is a challenge and I love that! Each day I look, I find out about something new as each trailer company has something unique to offer and since there are so many companies out there, I have a lot more work to do.

I am not certain if I will purchase used or new but from what I've seen, many used trailers have not been used all that much and may be a better investment. It seems that every few months I start looking and dreaming again,I cannot help myself but the cost to purchase one is amazing and therefore, I am cautiously investigating all factors, there is no rush necessary. There are many issues including but not limited to weight of the trailer, horse quarters, slide-outs, living quarter layouts and so many other features. Part of this process is understanding what I truly need without allowing the gorgeous pictures and non-essential features to lure me. (Of course, what kind of truck I need to pull it is a factor too.)

As part of this process, I'd like to take a few day (or overnight) trips to larger dealer lots. My thought is that I need to go inside several models to see what things are in real-life, not just on websites. So far, I've visited two places fairly local to my region and I believe that one with a slide-out is highly desired--especially because I travel with the dogs. I also know I want a slant load with mangers. I am up in the air about the mid-tack. I'd of course love one of those mega-models with a fireplace, couch, dinette, etc. but, those are way out of my price range and probably out of what I truly need. I have to weight wants and needs, carefully, which is not always easy.

I am interested in hearing your thoughts on the subject. What have you seen? What do you have? What are your likes and dislikes? Are there any trailers or options I should avoid? Any must-haves? I don't know when I'll take the plunge but, I thank you in advance for any ideas and insights.

Not just for me, but for my horses

2011-11-10T13:50:00.004-05:00

To decide is to walk facing forward with nary a crick in your neck from looking back at the crossroads. ~Betsy Cañas Garmon

I am still here but have been extraordinarily busy at home and at work. We have all of the hay shavings, and firewood put up for the winter. It takes a lot to live in the country, in the woods, in the north country! Work is also extraordinarily busy and I'm getting a great deal accomplished (thank goodness I love my work otherwise at this point, I'd be going mad). LOL

I have also strayed way off track over that last several months--easy to do when you are focusing on everything but oneself. That said, today is a new day and my first back on track, completely, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I went to the gym and have been enjoying healthy nutrition choices today (yeah for protein shakes laced with veggies and fruits, and of course Arbonne detox tea--I feel really good).

The weekend also looks very promising weather-wise which means horse time! I have hooves to trim (still), more pre-winter clean-up, and hopefully some riding and playtime! I won't be able to haul them anywhere (like the river...boo-hoo) because my horse trailer is full of our final load of hay. There is literally no where to put it! But, we have a great farm and plenty of things to do and an certain boredom is not going to be an issue.

My back has been doing great and yesterday, the chiropractor informed me that I was now on maintenance! YEAH! It has been 5 months seeing him and about two months of agony prior to that. This year has been difficult on so many levels in my life but, Rick and I are both on the mend, things will start to slow down (I think), and it is time to refocus (for more than one day, lol). I remembered the other night, while riding Fosse, that I was expecting him to carry a heavier load...I felt terrible about that...yeah, that is the reality folks, what we weigh and how physically fit we are impacts our horses too (like it or not). This is not just a, "I don't like how I look/feel" kind of thing. This is a "my horse has to cope with my issues too...not fair" kind of thing.

Saying and doing are not the same. So, my strategy to ensure follow-through is to plan healthy meals (including quick fixes for those times when I am out of energy and have the urge to grab and go), journal everything, drink lots of water, eat healthy foods avoiding processed garbage of all varieties, daily exercise, and a great deal of positive self talk (probably the most difficult part of my plan). Planning leads to action! So, here's to getting my weight back down, fitness back up, and to goal...not only for me but, for my horses---who are frankly, most important!

Strong Back = Happy Horse Time

2011-11-04T18:50:00.005-04:00

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Life has been really busy...what else is new!? We picked up and loaded 4 loads of hay about two weeks ago (320 bales) and have 3 loads to do this weekend (an additional 240). It takes Rick and I two hours per load which includes the drive time, loading, and unloading...yeah, we do all the work and it is tiring! He'll be picking up several loads of shavings next week too (one huge scoop is a cubic yard...we will be probably getting 3 or 4 for now). The new woodshed has worked out great as it holds firewood, we've created a shavings bin, and it holds some hay too...the overflow. In any event, as you can see, we are gearing up for a long, cold, winter.

I have been starting to feel like my old self again. I am happy to report that I have had four days straight with no back pain and I haven't seen my chiropractor in three weeks...this is great news indeed, great news. This evening, I even got in 45 minutes of horse time.

When I got out to the barn, Lola immediately ran into the barn to meet me. She was eager to see me and so, I tacked her up and we headed out in the paddock. It was getting dark and there is some light out there so it seemed to be the best place to hang out. I realized quickly that all of the horses were fairly spunky and I decided to play with her on the ground first. We ended up having a stellar session at liberty. You'd have thought we had been playing on a daily basis when in fact, it has been some time. She and I walked and trotted here and there, she went in all directions I asked her to do, yielded, maintained gait and direction, played with obstacles, and I think had a blast...I know I did! We were truly partnered up (I was even having fleeting thoughts about attending a clinic together--someday)! During the play time, Fosse and Whiskey kept checking in and playing with us too but primarily, this was Lola and Michelle time.

After sitting on a log for a brief break (and feeding the horses some treats), I picked up the natural hackamore and Lola and Whiskey walked off, Fosse however did not and so I put it on him and we rode around, from here to there, having a lovely time together as the night grew dark. My back didn't have any pain as it did the last time I rode so I am feeling more and more confident that I can truly get back into a more proactive exercise and hands-on horse routine again. It is amazing what an injury can do to your spirit let along your physical fitness. I've been so upset about my horsemanship and my fitness, for months now, but tonight felt exciting and was motivational and encouraging, a wonderful shift from my thoughts as I've been dwelling on the fact that I feel like everything has proceeded backwards! Anyhow...

So besides getting hay over the weekend, I've got hooves to trim and hopefully horse play time and riding too! I'd love to haul Lola to the St. Lawrence River for some play time but I doubt we will be able to go, we are simply too busy...someday. For now, we will just keep fitting in what we can and I'll keep things going. I really think a clinic or local a Parelli friend would be helpful to me but, neither seems to be in our near future...I've got to get Rick more involved in the hands-on horse play...hmmm. :)

Hay, hay, and more hay

2011-11-01T19:32:00.000-04:00

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I typically get my hay one load at a time. Well this weekend, I was told that I needed to get all of my hay (600 bales), right away. Our hay provider determined that the barn has a leak and I suspect, also just wants all the hay out (all that is not hers anyway). It was a bit alarming and a shock, definitely overwhelming at first, mostly because I needed to quickly gather much more cash than I typically have on hand and find space that I didn't anticipate to have to find, asap. Our plans were to get a load (80 bales), which is how we typically get our hay, a load at a time every month or so. In any event, instead of our regularly scheduled load, we worked all day yesterday and were able to get in 4 loads in 8 or 9 hours (320 of 600 bales). We had to stop as it got dark and frankly, Rick and I were out of energy. Fortunately, we are able to store the balance for the next two weeks until we can come back for the last three loads. We are putting hay as high and as tight as possible in the barn, we've fit in a load in the woodshed, and I hope we will be able to fit the rest in the barn as we've never stored so much at once...I suspect one load will have to stay in the horse trailer and be fed out first (80 bales fit in the trailer). Someday, I hope to have more hay storage space and a supplier that delivers...Rick and I are wiped out but on a happy note, in the next few weeks, all hay hauling and stacking will be done for the season...a first for us which is fairly exciting!

Marketing Assignment and My Dream

2011-10-31T23:17:00.001-04:00

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I am attending a Library Marketing Institute sponsored by the Ad Counsel and the Rochester Regional Library Network. It is a great opportunity to learn about marketing, branding, grants, and so much more. the content extends well past libraries and will be helpful no only in my profession but in my personal life. It is a six month commitment with monthly meetings 4 hours from home (which means two nights in a hotel with my dog Morgan), homework, a final project, and a truly unique experience.

Our first assignment was to write up a proposal for a project that we'd like our instructor to give us a million dollars to do (in theory...no one actually gets the money but she's promised some kind of prize). The projects are rough draft as we were not given tons of time or guidance but a way to get our minds thinking. I think I could have had much more budget detail but truly didn't have enough time to do that. Also, the assignment didn't have to be about libraries so, I decided to plan out my equestrian facility dream...something that is very unlikely to become reality, unfortunately, but I am realistic and so,not depressed about that fact. In any event, I decided to share it here. Why you may ask? I guess because I like to share and maybe, someone out there may want to consider funding it, yeah I know, it will never happen but a girl can dream, right? So, without any further ado, my assignment:

Library Marketing Institute
Assignment #1 Million Dollar Award
Due: October 30, 2011

Dear Ms. Burdine,

I am writing to you about a unique philanthropic opportunity to support women, allowing them an outlet for decompression, relaxation, and something altogether different than their normal routine, a new way to help with women’s work-life balance needs. Women of the 21^st century are working even harder in full-time careers, raising families, engaging in relationships, volunteering for a variety of community programs, and often caring for others with little regard to their own needs. I propose that to support these women in their endeavors, women need an outlet that allows them time to engage with themselves and others in a fun, nurturing environment. Natural Horsemanship is a holistic approach to horsemanship where horses and humans come together and develop a relationship using psychology, communication, and partnership as the foundation for a relationship. This is achieved through self-guided and classroom study, hands-on practice, and group events.

I am proposing to develop the Hidden Meadows Natural Horsemanship Equestrian Center for Women in North Lawrence, New York (Easy commuting distance from Potsdam, Massena, Malone, NY, and Southern Canada). The project is estimated at a need of $1,000,000. It has been designed to offer a place for discovery and learning, for relaxation and reflectin, for good health, wellness, and so much more. The Center design is a full-service day facility allowing one to exercise, eat right, study, and so much more. It is a safe, non-judgmental equestrian-minded environment where the focus is on nurturing one’s physical, mental, and emotional fitness, a place to develop one’s leadership and communications skills, a place to learn about topics like (but not limited to) horse husbandry, natural balance trimming, all riding disciplines, farm management, a place where one can engage in regular exercise, have a place to prepare a healthy meal or snack, a place to network, through activities with and about horses using all natural horsemanship guidelines to create partnership, harmony, and finesse. It allows women to enjoy a horse-centric dream otherwise often unattainable because of time, space, finances, and the like. Through our natural, holistic approach, it is a place where dreams can come true and the world is truly a better place for horses and humans alike, where principles are always placed before goals, where one’s dignity is always left in-tact, and where one can leave feeling satisfied with a true sense of accomplishment and joy. The beauty of natural horsemanship is that all skills can be translated into one’s life and thus, these activities will help the person grow in all areas of her life.

Note: This is not an exclusive facility. Men and children are welcome but the facility is structured around the specific equestrian needs of women.

Facilities:

· Purchase 75 additional acres to add to the existing 40 acre farm

· Build Morton Indoor Arena (150’W x 250’L) with amenities

o Full-lighting, windows, mirrors, finished walls & ceiling

o Rubber/sand footing

o Horse Barn attached (60’x 120’) with rubber matted, 12’x12’ stalls, wash rack, heated tack room

o Heated, technology-equipped classroom

o Heated Lounge with viewing window, technology, and library

o Fully-equipped, heated kitchen

o Heated bathroom with shower

o Heated utility/laundry room

o Heated workout room with equipment (20’x20’)

o Heated dance room (20’x20’)

o Heated office (for two)

· Build Morton Hay Barn (36’X36’)

· 6 Morton Run-In Sheds (24’ x 16’)

· Six 5-acre turnout areas

· Outdoor Hunter/Jumper Arena (150’x250’) with wood fencing

· Outdoor Exercise Arena (100’x150’) with wood fencing

· Dressage Arena (66’x197’) with wood barriers and letters

· Round pen Training Area (60’ x 60’) with steel panels

· 5 acre playground/obstacle course fully equipped

· Trails throughout the property

· 2 acre training/recreation pond

· Shared farm garden (80’ x 80’)

· 4WD Kubota Tractor

· 4WD, 1 ton, Chevrolet Pick-up Truck with Plow Unit

· 6-h Exiss Horse trailer with full living quarters for off-site events

· Landscaping

· Signage

· Driveway/road expansion

· 6 lesson/lending horses

· Tack/blankets, etc. for 6 lesson/lending horses

Activities:

· Horse boarding

· Natural horsemanship horse training , lessons (both in the classroom and hands-on)

· Shows, camping trips, trail rides, and other group activities

· Private use of all facilities for participants

· Fitness classes focusing on the equestrian and her needs

· Farm garden with fresh produce during the summer

· Lending library for Center clientele

· Nutrition and healthy living seminars for horses and humans

· Facility can be rented out for select outside functions to generate revenue

Thank you in advance for your consideration and time. I truly believe that this project will help the women of St. Lawrence County and surrounding regions find a better, much-needed work-life balance and higher level of personal growth. As a long-term supporter and student of natural horsemanship, as a professional working as an Academic Library Director, I can speak to the positive impact this sport has had on my life and the balancing act a professional women has to strike. I look only to share it with others. I look forward to meeting with you to discuss this proposal further. Please feel free to contact me with any questions.

Sincerely yours,

Michelle L. Young

Owner, Hidden Meadows Natural Horsemanship
North Lawrence, New York, USA
Natural Horse Lover http://naturalhorselover.blogspot.com/

Listening Intently

2011-10-17T19:42:00.004-04:00

How intently do you listen to your surroundings? With so much external sound in today's busy, digital world, it is easy to ignore some of the most wonderous sounds. My life is full of technology and its beeps, alarms, and other sounds and activities, I have constant streams of people talking to me all day long, and many other typical stressors. I love it but, it also can consume me in an unhealthy manner, I ride the fine line of technology addiction, a professional hazard.

I've been making a conserted effort to spend time with the horses over the last several days and I am feeling very satisfied. We are not doing much, as you know, because it is raining, cold, and dark when I get home. However, I am still spending time and that is all that matters. Tonight, I got in an hour feeding the horses and cleaning the barn. I enjoyed listening to them, more intently than in a long time, listening to their whinnys and knickers, listening to their hooves hit the ground and shuffle the shavings, their teeth chew and crunch their hay, carrots, alfalfa cubes & pellets. I listened as they sucked up and drooled water on the floor. I listened to them breathe, listened as they moved one another around, I just listened as I cleaned and checked in with Morgan who was hanging out in the barn with me, not making a sound. I listened as the shovel scraped the ground and as it plunged into the clean shavings pile, all of these sounds filling the air, but not polluting it like the other sounds I typically hear day after day. These sounds were soothing and enjoyable. The barn is a place of solice for me and I am glad to be back out there. I realize that I don't have to feel guilty and avoidant just because I cannot do everything I want or feel I should be doing, I realize that every moment is truly special and welcomed by my beautiful and forgiving horses.

As Morgan and I headed back to the barn, we listened to the rain as it fell on our heads and I listened to our feet fall on the gravel driveway as we walked together, through the woods, down the long, curving driveway, in the pitch black dark of night. Have you ever just let your heart and your dog lead the way, lead you back to your home, in the woods, not knowing what may be lurking as you walked past it? For me, it was trust, partnership, and was simply fantastic...Morgan my other "horse." LOL

The smell of horses, Autumn.

2011-10-16T22:00:00.003-04:00

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Autumn is in full swing here, colorful leaves are flying and falling,the rain is pouring , and the temperatures have dropped. When I go outside, I need a coat, boots, and almost a hat. The fall smell is in the air, something that has always reminds me of horses, one of my favorite seasons.

The horses are all getting fuzzy and have eaten everything possible in our fields. As the apples drop, the horses snatch them up like sweet morsels, running to the apple tree as soon as they are sent out in the playground, galloping, squealing, and running to be sure they get them before one another, a race to happiness!

As I watch my horses this year, I have noticed new herd dynamics, more confidence in wandering away from one another, and yet, they still each have their own little spark, unique horsenality, and our relationship thrives, something I notice with each interaction. Remembering that horses are way more than riding is my saving grace this year. My back still aches daily some days better than others (thank goodness for my chiropractor), I never remember feeling like this in all the years but since April or so, I have felt OLD. I warned Rick this morning that I am probably gearing up for my mid-life crises, lol.

I turn 40 this December and am not feeling graceful about it! My thoughts wander and I often wonder if I've wasted time, I feel like life is so short, and that I am no where near where I'd hoped to be in my horsemanship journey. The rest of my life is well on track, successful career, beautiful home, great husband and beautiful animals fill my life. But, I feel like there is so much to do and so little time! I should be thankful, I enjoy a comfortable and good life, not fancy, not wealthy, but genuinely good and honest but yet, I always dream about wanting/needing more, about travel, about living in new and exciting places...yeah, I'm a dreamer.

Enjoy the autumn with your horses, it is a great time to connect, a beautiful time of year to enjoy being outside, and what is better than being with horses??? HMMMM, probably nothing.

First time in ages...

2011-10-14T20:42:00.003-04:00

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For the first time in ages, I spent time in the barn and wanted to be there. A hard reality to admit or realize. I think I've been over whelmed, sad, and just out of sorts---for months. I know this may sound bizarre considering how much I love my horses but, my work life has been so hectic and stressful that it is all I can do to come home and fall over, hopefully landing on the couch and not the floor, lol. My healthy living has gone by the wayside and continues to be a struggle (which makes me feel horrible on so many levels), my horses rarely see me (which makes me feel guilty), but my career is truly thriving (which makes me very pleased). We've had so many projects going on at the farm that my head has been spinning (not to mention Rick's--he's carried the majority of that responsibility). I don't know why or what happened but last night, I felt excited to walk to the barn and hang out, a feeling that has been gone far too long, a great feeling. I was out so late that Rick came looking for me and found me walking down the driveway, through the woods, in the dark (with no flashlight, lol), and yes, I was smiling.

The horses were actually out in the field most of the time but, I enjoyed straightening up, cleaning, and just hanging out, by myself, in one of my favorite places, the barn. My guinea hens, ducks, and chickens all came in and meandered around, calling out, we all had a good time--they are hilarious! Eventually, the horses came in and were treated to a gourmet meal, much-needed grooming, and they seemed to enjoy the time with me as much as I enjoyed it with them, they were nickering like crazy!

On my home to-do list (let's not even talk about my work to-do list) is to start eating healthy again without making excuses (planning will be key), resume my exercise routine (which probably will make me feel 100% better mentally and physically, almost immediately), catch up on my Parelli videos, trim hooves, get hay up for the winter, and so much more. However, rather than looking at a long list, just getting back to the basics of things that make me feel happy again, will be vital...get back on a healthy path and incorporating horse time in my daily routine again. I plan to look at everything like it was the first time all over again and I challenge you all to do the same...it should prove to make everything fresh and fun again. I hope you all are doing well. Check in if you have time!

Decompressing...

2011-09-16T21:40:00.000-04:00

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Decompressing from a long, hard week...rode my horse, played with my dogs, now drinking wine and noshing next to a warm toasty fire (our first for the season thanks to Rick for making it). Horses are amazing and mine have been patient with my absence lately. My Sat-Mon were stellar, everything was great, work was super busy and productive (the way I like it), horse play, Zumba, Weight Watchers, fun with Rick, delicious gourmet meals, life was grand, and had I kept it up (health-wise that is), I'd have had a great weight loss for the week, Tuesday is a total blank, literally so busy I cannot remember it, and Wednesday was horrible on so many levels (and not all WW related--mostly work related), Thursday was tough, today a bit better.

Tonight, I am chilling out at home, doing what I want (including ignoring work stuff for once), and plan to not weigh-in tomorrow at the WW meeting. I know it won't be a loss and I have no reason to torture myself with a number that does not move or moves in the wrong direction. I have plently of other things going on to manage and a self-imposed left down is not my idea of loving oneself. Frankly my friends, by mid- week, my life was a mess and very difficult, I was a mess, I was human and fallible and on some levels, and at this point, I just don't care.

So tonight I am going to drink my bottle of wine and eat cheese and snacks, while sitting on my rocking chair in my riding pants, smelling like my horse, and finally feeling some sense of stress relief and control. I have to thank Fosse for allowing me to be his partner and for having fun riding around the property tonight--it was so much fun. I always feel like I am in another world, like I am free hen with the horses. I thank Rick for helping me finally feel better because he is the world's best husband and supports me through it all. And finally, I thank my colleague and friend Kevin for reminding me of what was truly important in life (my husband, animals, home, and all that I love). I look up to him because he;s mastered things I am still working on.

I'll try again this week, to be better in all aspects of my life, to give my 100% in everything I do, I promise.

Getting Back to Basics

2011-09-08T10:36:00.002-04:00

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It has been a long time since I've posted. I've literally had non-stop company at my house since around the first of August! I was dealing with that and working, feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and at my breaking point. It is not that I din't enjoy some of the time but every day, people at your house...not for me, sorry but it is not. It is one reason why opening up a horse business would not work, the constant stream of people would get to me, I love my privacy. I have not had a real vacation in years and better do something soon. Horse time? I cannot remember what that is...well except for the other day when I got to play with Lola who seems to be completely oblivious that we had a relationship and that I was the leader.

Lola and I worked it all out, it ended well but, I had to dismount almost immediately because she was very ugly towards me when I simply asked her to back up...she rang her neck, tried to bite me, and even offered to bolt and buck should I not get off on my own. I took it as an opportunity to reconnect and get back to basics. How rude it was of me to ask for anything when all I'd been doing is mostly just cleaning and feeding her without really spending any quality time. We played in the playground, round pen, in the yard, driveway, and even with the trailer. Getting back to basics for us meant reestablishing herd hierarchy, playing the games and patterns, and learning to listen to one another. Overall, a good session but one that was fraught with a lot of emotion...a good thing as it tested both of us and our relationship which is still on good terms, luckily. I didn't try to ride again by the way, I didn't have a desire and saw no point in it.

I need to get my life back on track and my mind back in the horse game, back in the healthier living game, and so much more. I am in a true and horrible funk...I owe you all like 6 weekly tasks! But, I think for now, I'll have to stop the weekly task thing because I am not active enough in the horse game at the moment to even be thinking about it. So, I'll post things as them come but not on any kind of schedule anymore, I need to take the pressure (and guilt) off for now, I hope you understand. I need to bet back to the basics in my life, planning, eating right, playing with horses, exercising, and spending time with Rick. (Oh, and working of course, lol.)

My plan...? I am menu planning some easy, light meals and also planning for horse time and physical activity--a fresh start. I've registered for Bangin' Bodies, Zumba I, and Zumba II at the University starting the week of Sept 19th. I am starting back at the gym on Monday come hell or high water! And, starting back on Sat I'll be back at Weight Watchers meetings and Zumba afterwards. I am also pledging 30 minutes a day with the horses doing something other than cleaning or feeding. It does not sound like much but it is a start and fairly realistic. I have to do something...I feel just horrible lately. I am physically and emotionally drained and need a new start, a complete overhaul, an attitude adjustment. Rick reminded me of how great I felt when I was exercising, playing with the horses, and eating right (I think he feels cruddy too frankly). So, I am going back at it full force because for me, complete immersion is the only thing that works, I cannot just dabble in anything, I have to be totally focused and almost obsessed. (This may mean a few extra visits to the chiropractor but I don't care, I love my adjustments and my doctor!)

So that is the story, it is not a pretty one but an honest one. Take care everyone, keep in touch, and do come back to the blog, I plan to post more often again! Sigh.

P.S. I am working on a plan for a vacation or at the least, a weekend excursion with Rick and no one else. I love my family but enough is enough...I need my personal life back...sorry to offend but it is reality. I love my private life, my home with husband and critters off in the woods, in our own little world.

Weekly Task Challenge: Asking Permission

2011-07-27T19:02:00.002-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more.)

This week's challenge is a play on my post about mutual respect. In thinking about how important giving and receiving respect is, particularily when striving for successful relationships, I thought it was truly a good weekly task.

This week, every time you interact with your horse, ask permission to engage. Ask for permission to enter the stall, to put on the halter and/or tack, permission to mount and dismount, etc. Not sure how? Refer to your Parelli materials, it is all in there!

Here is a link to an article on Horse Channel by Pat Parelli responding to a question about a horse kicking. He talks about respect and asking permission...click here to read.

Wanted: Mutual Respect for Horses and Humans

2011-07-27T15:09:00.003-04:00

It has been a horribly stressful, headache-inducing day. So far, I am on track (regarding my journey to better health) minus exercise. I am not sure my heart is in it for exercise today (or much else frankly, including horse time). I suppose I could do my pilates video for the horseback rider (Janice Dulak)...sigh. And, as far as horse time, I did say hello and feed them (and the chicks). I am mentally and physically exhausted, wiped out. When I got home, I was so exhausted I wanted to cry or vomit, not sure which, totally beat down, feeling like giving up on the world and perhaps myself. I really didn't even want to go outside or see Rick (no offense to him of course). Oh my goodness, this all sounds so horrible when written (hearing my feelings in my head when I write--erhaps a good way to work it all out though). For most of the afternoon, all I wanted to do was to do is go home, crawl into bed, and hide under the covers (with the dogs of course) and never come out. Not that this would solve anything but, escape was on my mind. I even toyed with thoughts of living off the grid, in seclusion, and escaping from society, responsibility, and thus, no more stress. This is not the norm for me of course (if you couldn't guess from all of my other posts over the years--I am a perfectionist, over achiever--most of the time) so, the situation was truly serious (to me anyway). I hate feeling attacked, I hate feeling out of control, and I hate feeling like what I say and do
does not matter. UGH.

The reason why I am writing is that today, I was reminded about how important mutual respect was. Not only receiving it but making sure that I always give it to others. I believe I do but, being on the receiving end of reactions, responses, interactions that lacked this respect towards me or any caring about the work I do, my professional experience, etc., was truly disturbing to me. I felt like....well, you get the picture without the gory (and probably boring) details. In hindsight, perhaps I took some things more personally than I should have but, I truly believed, in my heart of hearts, that the work I presented was done with care, diligence, and was what was asked of me. I do not go into anything lightly and always put in 100%. In hindsight, perhaps those who made me feel this way have no idea and therefore, I must forgive the situation and will work harder to breathe and will plan future interactions and responses. (A colleague who witnessed this did reach out in a kind way to me, showing understanding, concern, and helped me see from a different lens.) In the future, I won't let a situation like this get to me but instead, try to remember to think the phrase (thanks to Linda Parelli)..."how interesting." Somehow that phrase helps me breathe but I typically only use it in horse situations.

A regard for the dignity of person isn't much to ask, is it? Good relationships are built on mutual respect. This brings me to horses (I am sure you are thinking, finally, she's going to talk horses). Our relationships, including those with our horses, are truly important and good ones are based on mutual respect. Your horse should respect you and you should respect your horse in all situations...this is why those practicing PNH ask for permission to enter a stall (or other living quarter), ask for permission to mount and dismount, and so much more. We pay attention to responses and reactions, and we always try to improve.

Based on Lisa's comment in another post (she's one of my regular readers--thanks Lisa), I realized that I was not completely respecting Lola (despite my sincerest intentions). I never truly and seriously took into account the fact that she is a mare and will have hormone and physical issues that may interfere with our relationship that my geldings simply do not experience. I mean, I know she is a mare and has cycles but, I never truly gave her the benefit of the doubt because of it. To be proactive and bring my responsibility of respect up to par, I contacted my veterinarian today to get more information and thus gain knowledge on Lola's physiology to allow me to better understand her and react appropriately when she and I are having difficulties.

Tonight, take a moment to reflect on your relationships, what ever and with whom ever they may be, it is truly important. It is just another piece of never ending self-improvement. S-A-V-V-Y!

Life Seems Normal Again

2011-07-23T14:11:00.005-04:00

I started attending WW meetings again this morning (something that helps me focus on my health and well-being). Rick is doing well and seems like his happy old self, and the animals are all acting like little angels. Somehow the universe has aligned again for us and life seems more normal. ❤

I have a great deal of work to do to get myself back to my lowest weight and best fitness level, then of course to get to goal once and for all. If you were wondering, I haven't been to a meeting since May 7th. I appreciated the hugs and warm welcomes I received from the group as if I was just on a long vacation, they are all are so sweet. I purchased the 3-month tracker as that is my most favorite method of tracking above online with my PC or smart phone. I believe the act of writing and reading a document has a very different and lasting experience. I've written everything down, planned my week, and feel confident that I can and will be back on track. Funny how a simple meeting adds so much value...must be the structure and accountability piece. (I experienced much the same with my horse group in VA. We would meet, challenge each other, and somehow that pushed the envelope increasing progress.) I am starting back at WW as if this was all new so, I am reviewing my introductory materials and set a 5% goal to be met by August 27th.

Rick has been in the process of adjusting medications, trying to mentally cope with less than good news, and getting himself back in the healthy living game as well. Reminders of mortality have a tendency to make people feel out of control but, together, we plan to live a long time, despite any recent detours we've had to face.

As far as the critters, all is well at Hidden Meadows. Everyone is snoozing with the heat and no one is fighting. Good enough for me! As with WW, I plan to review and play catch-up with my Parelli materials too...are you behind in your studies? Perhaps a little reading or videos is a good plan if it is too hot to do much else.

Thank you again for your friendship and support. If there is anything that I can do for you, please let me know. I wish you all a happy, healthy, and long life full of love, fun, and horses!

Like and Angel O:)

2011-07-22T18:23:00.006-04:00

Leadership, communication, partnership, keeping it real and ensuring principles are more important than your goals....Yes, you've heard this over and over, many times, and isn't it interesting that each time, it is in relation to a different scenario? The time I spent with Lola last night (after she bit my arm) was very valuable for our relationship (and worth the mosquito bites).

Today after work, I went home and had some farm time. It has really been a long and hot week so, to me, this was chill-out time doing what I love most, being outside with the critters and my sweet hubby. The chickens and guinea keats were doing great, scratching, fluffing, eating, Rick was splitting wood (and sweating heavily--it is still very hot here), and the horses were eating hay under a tree. Once they (the horses) saw me, they stopped and immediately came over to see me. I was clear with each as to how far into my space they were allowed, and even asked for a few minor things (at liberty). I then decided to check-in with Lola, one-on-one, using the 22 foot line and halter, carrot stick and string, just like last night. She was thoughtful, had a kind eye, never offered to rear, buck, squeal, rear, or bite. She very easily did all that I asked and circling was a breeze. She had a beautiful, collected, slow, trot, an animated but controlled walk, she disengaged easily, and never acted up, she was just an angel. I didn't use a treat to reward her, just a nice scratch and some petting of her face which she seemed to appreciate. She wasn't learning anything new and my friend Clare mentioned using treats only during a learning process so, I thought I'd give that a try (also, I remember something form the Horsenality Report about no treats for her but I cannot remember all the details at the moment--maybe treats only at certain times or something).

After the fun time, I proceeded to clean the barn and feed. Lola insisted on hanging out with me. I moved her around at liberty just using my hands and she was very good. She seemed to just want to be together despite the boys being outside. It was very satisfying and very nice. I do love my girl.

Well, time to make dinner and enjoy the doggies and Rick. I hope to do a little horse reading too. Have a lovely weekend everyone!

My horse bit me...now what to do.

2011-07-21T21:24:00.003-04:00

To begin, I have no intentions of ever hanging a sign up like the one I used here but, I got you ateention didn't I? It has been a hot day here on the farm with a heat index of 109 degrees Fahrenheit. Yesterday was really warm too. Everyone is sweating and fairly miserable, man and animal alike. I just went out to the barn to take care of the horses and as I was putting hay in the feeders, Lola came over and bit me, deliberately. Not a nip, she grabbed the top part of my arm with her mouth open wide and CHOMP! It almost seemd like it was in slow motion. Normally I'd have moved the horses out of my space but I was in the process of opening the gate, trying to carry the hay, and before I knew it, a huge bruise and teeth marks were on my arm. I immediately backed her (as soon as I could anyway) and chased her out of the barn. I was, to say the least, upset. I was angry that she'd do that to me as it was nasty not to mention, she hurt my feelings because I thought we've been doing really well together. After this incident, I had to drive Rick back to the house but, I knew, despite the heat and the terrible mosquitoes, I'd have to go back to the barn, retrieve Lola, and work with her to reestablish the herd dynamic, partner, and be her leader. I realize that often times this is a dominance game and I knew that I'd need to win. I see the horses nipping at one another and just yesterday observed her chomping Whiskey pretty similiarly to what I experienced (and he is the lowest horse in the herd).

Upon reentering the barn, the horses were eating hay, the boys calm as usual and Lola, a little on edge. She truly was one big ball of attitude. I blocked her with my arm bend and moving it upwards a few times, keeping her well out of my space until I haltered her and put on the 22 foot line, grabbed my carrot stick and string, and then moved outside with her. In hindsight, I should have sprayed the both of us with bug spray but, there was about 15 minutes of daylight left and I didn't think of it, I was more intersted in fixing our relationship.

The first thing I asked her to do was to walk, me in zone 3, but at a distance (about 5 feet away). I didn't allow her to get ahead and used the stick and string, wiggling it in front of her when she needed a reminder. After getting to the open area in the paddock, I asked her to back up the entire length of the rope, and with some impulsion. She did that well but I could tell she was having a hard time thinking and focusing. Then, the fireworks started. I asked her to circle and she blew her top. All I did initially (phase 1 mind you) was point, then lift the stick, wiggle and pow, freak out! She bucked, reared, squealed, could barely look at me, and couldn't move forward, just up. This happened for several asks and eventually she moved forward but fast, out of control, bucking, squealing, and she kept trying to turn her hind quarters towards me (totally disrespectful) and I could tell she could not look at me. I've seen this behavior before but not this bad (I still don't know why she was so upset). I maintained my emotions and her dignity and continued to ask her politely, as always, and tried to giver her time to respond, rewarding the slightest try. I did this in the other direction as well intermingling backing and pausing, giving her time to lick and chew. Once she had herself more in control of her emotions, I asked for sideways down the fence line in both directions, some squeeze, and eventually, I asked her to back down part of the paddock, around the corners to and into the barn. We ended on a positive note, both calm, both in a good place. I then remembered to spray all of the horses (all at liberty of course) to chase away some of the bugs.

As I headed to the barn, I started replaying this in my mind. Why did she bite, what was going on? I remembered her trying to bite me yesterday when I rode her and the day before she nipped me. I need to be more aware of my cues to ensure that I am being polite while mounted. I believe that as we progress, she is challenging my leadership but taking it to another level. She's always challenged and now, perhaps she's upped the ante? I am not sure of course, only Lola knows but, I do have a plan. I wrote a long time ago about biting and decided to dig up that post. I am also going to read her horsenality report again, gaining me more insight to strategies working with her. Some of this behavior is exactly the kinds of things (similar anyway) to what Fosse did as a young horse, testing me. I recall a time when he grabbed my finger and chomped me, my arm too, anyhow, backing certainly helped cure that (he was backed up the mountainside, fast and that made him think twice). I never hurt my horses over this but do establish a leadership role using the techniques from Parelli.

Here are a few things to keep in mind about horses and biting:

Disengage the hindquarters (breaking the hindquarters) to break a brace with a horse taking away the power they have, braciness (start on the ground), be sure to give release, horses are bracey—people usually asking too much too fast (rude or abrupt)
Backing cures biting—it starts on the ground, horses get into habits, try new things all of the time, sometimes a physical thing--problem usually mental, emotional, or physical
On the ground, backing cures biting for two reasons: 1. Horse backs out of your proximity 2. You back a horse psychologically, you are moving up in the leadership ladder (the pecking order of horses)
Horses check you every minute and try to challenge when they can, they try new things to see what your response is
Punishment does not work with horses because if you watch horses (geldings) two, one bites the other, the other bites back, they will do it all day just for fun, when people smack a horse for biting, you agree to participate in their game so this would not work
On the horses back, back him because they cannot bite you, if the horse wants to come around, (the horse can get lower jaw caught on the stirrup if you remove your foot from it--especially in an English saddle), get your horse busy and back the horse up, give them something else to do
You could also, move your foot forward into the curl of their neck (say if you are bareback), they cannot curl their nose and neck around to get to you to bite (just make it difficult for them—they cannot reach)
Backing cures biting (ask yourself, how do I change their mind about this behavior and make it not fun anymore?)
If the horse views you as a leader, they would not do this.
Many considerations, not a simple question, really.
True leadership with the horse, the behaviors will go away.

Lastly, I love Lola, I love all of my horses, but, I do have to remember that they are horses, not humans, and that I have to be a good leader, a partner, and keep any anthropomorphic ideas in check. It also occurs to me that I need to remember the horse's hierarchy of needs...maybe too many treats during playtime?? HMMM.

Horse's Hierarchy of Needs (IN THIS ORDER)
• Safety = Confidence + Leadership
• Comfort = Release
• Play = Fun + Creativity
• Food = Incentive

So much to think about....I love horses, they keep my mind reeling! I definitely need to pull out some of my Parelli educational materials and get a more official game plan in play. Here's to the horse, always teaching the human (and hopefully we humans are teaching them too).

Weekly Task Challenge: Heat & Bug Relief - Is it possible?

2011-07-20T22:11:00.002-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more.)

As the country is swealtering in the heat, bugs attacking, how is one to go outside let alone, enjoy their horses? This week's challenge is to brainstorm remedies for heat and insects and share with others here, on the blog, using the comments section.

For me, I find myself using all kinds of sprays (herbal and not) that don't seem to work well, screen outfits that keep the bugs away but make the horses sweat, and Benedryl for the hives/welts from insect allergies! As for the heat, I have a huge fan in the wall of the barn, open doors for air circulation, and of course, provide a lot of fresh water. Oye, it is a rough summer. I cannot wait to hear all of your ideas! I bet there are differences across the globe...this should be fascinating.

Sisters can be so much fun!

2011-07-18T15:20:00.005-04:00

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I have to say that my sister can be so much fun! When we were kids, we really didn't get along at all. As adults, although we live completely different lives, we've been able to put our past behind us and enjoy together time when we see each other. This weekend was no exception.

Heather and I had all kinds of time together this weekend, we spent hours in the truck traveling, horse time, boating time, and more. Today, I want to tell you about the horse time. My sister loves my animals and they enjoy her very much as well. On Saturday, we decided to have some horse time. First, I lead her around on Fosse for a pony ride. He was a bit unamused at this but was a good sport. She had a short ride but felt that bareback was not her thing and decided to dismount. Instead, she played at liberty with the horses (and a pocket full of treats), and I rode the horses.

I first rode Fosse, bareback and with the natural hackamore. He was a bit aggravated with the flies but soon concentrated on riding the rail, going thorough obstacles, backing, etc. I asked for a trot and he eventually gave me one, it was nice but, his "go button" was not working all that well. I decided that my sister could help. I asked her to take the lead line attached to the hackamore and trot as I asked him to do the same. He took well to this medley of cues and off we went. We worked on transitions and had a grand time. We gave him a few cookies and that was certainly a welcomed treat. Lola and Whiskey walked and trotted too, at liberty, with the three of us...it must have been a sight to see!

Next, it was Lola's turn. When I mounted up, she stood quietly until she got bit by a nasty fly, she leaned in such a contorted way that I almost slid off! LOL Anyhow, once I regained my seat, off we went. We did much the same with Lola and she was delighted. She had been playing trot to and through obstacles with Heather at liberty when I was riding and so to add Heather to the mix with my riding time was unique and fun. Lola has a particularly lovely, smooth trot...she puts some gaited horses to shame! LOL We rode from here to there, also working on transitions, bending, backing, etc. It was a great time and Lola loved her treats!

Lastly, I gave Whiskey a quick spin working on walk/trot transitions using the rail and obstacles (without Heather as she was amusing Fosse and Lola again). Whiskey did well and I certainly enjoyed my time with him. He is very light when he is willing to partner and floats on air!

What I take away from this experience is great joy at feeling progressive with my horses, joy in knowing that I can have fun with Heather, and the satisfaction in knowing that creativity certainly makes everyone happy and successful! We may have looked strange to many traditional horse people but, we played and engaged, we walked away with all parties' dignity in tact, celebrated accomplishments, and walked away with smiles! Heather remarked that she got more of a workout than at the gym and that it was more fun too!

Weekly Task Challenge: Sideways and Sidepassing

2011-07-13T04:43:00.001-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Pat Parelli says that your horse should be able to move in all directions equally. I find that many people ignore the sideways game! So, this week's challenge is to first play on the ground with your horse, winning the sideways game (and the other 6 of course), then try it our while mounted! Please note that there is more than one way to play each game so don't bore your horse with needless repetition of the same old thing. Remember to expect a lot but reward the slightest try and allow your horse to feel successful and confident. Be sure to work on both directions once you master the movement keeping your horse equally balanced. This may not all come at once so use the week to work at it (and longer if you need to). Slow and right will always beat fast and wrong, always.So take the time it takes, have fun, be savvy and as always, for additional help, review your Parelli educational materials, go to Parelli Connect, or contact a Parelli Professional!

***Be sure to read Lisa's comment on sideways and sidepassing so that you understand the different and can perform these tasks at several levels! (Thanks, Lisa, for the additional input---I changed the blog post title to reflect it.)

Happy Horsin' Peeps!

2011-07-09T21:30:00.004-04:00

Rick and I have been working on the property (I will upload new pictures soon), making plans, and finding time to enjoy life. We are both feeling much better and thank goodness for that. I think that Rick has a little more progress to go with medications being adjusted but, at least he is home and not in a hospital! My back is doing great too (my chiropractor was the key).

We are still talking about building an indoor arena and discuss all kinds of plans with that (and drool when looking at brochures, lol). We also have put in another round pen (using push-in posts and 2 rails of 2" tape-unelectrified). I didn't buy the proper round coral as planned (unfortunately), maybe next year. However, thankfully, my temporary pen works very well for me. It is a great tool to use that ensures that I don't pish my horses through thresholds...if I did, frankly, they could bust through it or jump over it...but they don't because I am respectful, have a plan, and communicate with them. I have the big field and horse play ground all mowed and full of fun obstacles (looks like a park really--can you say gorgeous?!). We are really taking advantage of having the new workshop building and horse barn (it is so nice not to be crowded). There is other stuff going on but I cannot list everything here! :)

Even more importantly, I have been truly enjoying my horses. On July 4th, I was riding Fosse out in the big field (Whiskey and Lola in tow of course---when you don't have a lot of time, you try to make the most of it and keep everyone with you I guess). Anyhow, he was a bit more alert than usual but, he is very sensible and listens to my leadership. So, imagine this, Fosse and I are walking and exploring the newly mowed field, Whiskey and Lola are hanging around grazing and off blows fireworks (loud ones with lots of crackling) at the neighbor's house. Whiskey and Lola took off racing with their heads high. Fosse, thankfully, looked to me for a signal of what to do. I was glad too because of course, I was just riding bareback with a halter (I know, so lazy of me to never pull out my proper tack, lol, someday I will start doing that, I think). In any event, I walked him a little bit towards to other two, dismounted and released him. He paused and asked permission to leave, and of course, I said yes. The three went back to the barn area and front turnout. It was a good thing I stopped riding. Despite the sun still being out, the neighbor's had fireworks going like crazy. The horses were upset but, when I stood with them, they calmed down. I locked them in the front area to help give them a familiar, structured, and safe place. Morgan was with us by the way and totally unconcerned about the choas.

Just the other day, I enjoyed a little fun time that I'd like to share. I rode Lola bareback with a rope halter working on straightness going forward, stopping, and backing up). Whiskey and Fosse just clung to us, Fosse on our left and Whiskey on our right (at liberty) guess they were just trying to help keep Lola straight--she was a little annoyed but did very well--all good practice on so many levels! I just LOVE my horses as they are so much fun! Lola and I are always negotiating leadership and I am learning more and more just how far I can push her buttons while keeping our relationship strong. Whiskey and Fosse are just hilarious with her too, especially when I am mounted. They believe that should be hanging with us and they force her to cool her jets! :)

And today, what a fun day...horse trailer window shopping (looking at 3h/lq models), a nice drive through the mountains and lakes of the Adirondacks, and play/riding time with the horses. I first played with Lola at liberty working on walk/trot, side pass, backing, and more. Then, I rode her. This time, working on what we did the other day as well as steering, side passing, and patterns. She did fantastic. There were a few moments where she acted like she may want to start having a fit but, she kept her composure, I kept mine, we worked together, and had a great time!

All in all, the horses and I are really bonded together and enjoy all the time we have. No matter if it is just feeding and cleaning, grooming, play time, or riding. Take every moment you can to enjoy and love your horses...life is simply too short.

P.S. I've back-filled the weekly tasks as promised. April is a month long challenge posted on the first (not how I usually do it but it is a fun exception). Thanks for your support and patience.

Weekly Task Challenge: Parelli Connect

2011-06-29T22:36:00.001-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week's challenge is to connect (or reconnect) on Parelli Connect! What is it? Think fun, educational, inspirational, and progressive. It is a great place to network, learn, and be with fellow Parelli enthusiasts online. This site gives you to-do lists, videos, a place to talk, and so much more. If you've never been there, check it out, they offer a free 30-day trial.

Missing You All

2011-06-26T20:30:00.004-04:00

Good evening horse lovers. I am so sorry to have been away for so long. I cannot believe it has been almost a month! I have been thinking of you all and feeling guilty for not posting. I realize I've missed many weekly tasks too. I plan to back-fill them in on the blog since people look for them weekly.

Life has been really difficult and busy lately. I injured my back (not sure how exactly) and then, two days later, my husband had to go to the hospital becuase he could not breathe. Long story short, I am better (thank goodness for chiropractors), and he is better (it was his heart, definitely a life threatening scare, but he is okay now). There is some other stuff going on that is work-related too. So, basically, no horse time really, lots of stress, and challenges (that I met head on).

Today, Ioved the little horse time I got in tonight...snuggling with the horsies, riding Fosse, and trimming his hooves. He is really patient, standing there with his hoof in the hoof jack while I trim and assess his hooves (it takes me forever, especially when I am trying to protect my back). But, it is quality time for sure. Tomorrow night, Lola get's hers trimmed and Tuesday, Whiskey (Taking the time it takes to trim and protect my back from any stress).

My journey to better fitness is going okay, slow but still working at it. I am using WW Online and trying to make wise choices (not always easy for me, especially when if I neglect to plan). Rick is now working to be healthier too which really helps. This weekend, I have been able to start walking again since my back is better. I have to start all over again building up my endurance to exercise as if I never did it before...bummer but, I am up to the challenge.

So, I hope to get back to posting more frequently again and do apologize. I cannot imagine my life without Rick, without horses, without my doggies and kitty, without exercise, etc. These are the things that make my world go round! Please keep checking back and don't give up on me, I am here and still 100% Parelli!

Weekly Task Challenge: Head to heels (hooves)....

2011-06-22T12:13:00.000-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Good health starts in the head and goes all the way through your heels (or hooves). What I mean by this statement is that good health begins with emotional fitness but physical and nutritional fitness are also equally important. Imagine you and your horse trying to have a relationship and he cannot think, cannot connect. Now think about your own mind. Are you emotionally fit? Do you have what it takes to not take what your horse may do personally? Are you two healthy, mentally, together? The stress that can develop if you aren't can be toxic and anti-productive.

This week, take some time to evaluate your horse's nutrition, physical, and his emotional fitness, then review your own--it is not just about your horse but about YOU! Be honest, be thoughtful, and write this stuff down! The benefits will out weigh the work and a good dose of reality never hurt anyone. If anything, you will be closer to yourself and to you horse!

Weekly Task Challenge: Grooming Tips - It's show season!

2011-06-15T23:02:00.003-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week's challenge it to post grooming tips here (using the comments section) and go groom your horse! One tip I've never forgotten is to use your fingers in your horse's mane and should you desire them to be long. To this day, I do this and have three horses with beautiful, natural, long manes and tails. :) Here are a few links to get you started.

http://www.horsegroomingsupplies.com/horse_care.htm

http://www.horsechannel.com/horse-health/grooming-tips-to-transform-your-horse-26311.aspx

http://www.raspberryridge.com/kids-Show%20grooming.htm

Weekly Task Challenge: Hoof care

2011-06-08T23:07:00.000-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Depending on where you live in the world, your horses hooves may differ from your friend's horses across the globe. Depending on their living situation, the climate, natural environment, shod, barefoot, etc. no two horses are the same. This week's task is to evaluate you horse's hooves. Determine if they are healthy or not and what you might do to help them be all they can be! Contact your farrier, veterinarian, or other horse professional for help! (P.S. I barefoot my horses and have been trimming them for years....truly, you could too if you are not happy with their current care....I am not saying I am perfect, if you want perfection, check out the three links below...these folks are GOOD!) As a bonus task, share here your tricks and remedies for issues like thrush and white line disease! Remember, this blog is a great place to network!

Gene Ovnicek
http://www.hopeforsoundness.com/cms/gene-ovnicek.html

Pete Ramey
http://www.hoofrehab.com/

Jaime Jackson
http://www.jaimejackson.com/

Dr. Hiltrud Strasser
http://www.strasserhoofcare.org/

Weekly Task Challenge: Can you hula-hula?

2011-06-01T04:39:00.001-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week's task is one that I saw at a Parelli Demo and Games event. It was fascinating to see how many people struggled with backing their horses up. With the assistance of Parelli Professional Ron Pyne, they found success and their horses were able to think through the task (well done Ron).

Okay, so here is the task. To set up, use landscaper's paint and draw a 30 foot diameter circle. In the middle, place a hula hoop (or just draw another circle to resemble one). Mount your horse using whatever tack you'd like (I'd recommend bareback (with or without a pad) and a natural hackamore but that is just me.) Anyhow, ride your horse forward just outside the large circle(focusing on a point to ride your horse straight.) Now, back your horse, slowly and with purpose, don't rush it, remember slow and right beats fast and wrong. Back your horse and place his rear feet in the hula hoop (or small circle) and stand there for 7 seconds. Remember to relax once in place so that your horse can relax. Once you've done this well, do the same but now stop when the front feet are in the hula hoop. Pause again for 7 seconds. Be sure to back straight. If you are feeling really successful and want another challenge, try turns on the forehand and hindquarters keeping the horse's front/back feet in the hula hoop as the task necessitates.

This challenge is a great opportunity to use and refine many of your games, can you list all of them that apply?--that is the bonus task challenge this week! :)

Have fun, be safe, be savvy! Principles before goals people!

Patterns, Horsenalities, Humanalities, and a Plan

2011-05-30T08:23:00.004-04:00

Thanks to a wonderful discussion with Parelli Professional Geneviève Benoit, I have a plan to move ahead. I spoke with her about my recent play sessions with the horses. It is not to say that I am not having fun, I have been playing and making progress to some extent but, if I am going to push through some of my own thresholds and get a bit more serious about my assessment, I need a plan and a push. She suggested that I revisit and go through the patterns with the horses. This will give us some needed structure and a plan. I love the idea and actually had been thinking about doing it recently. Having a Parelli Pro tell me to do something I'd already been thinking about is a great way to remind me that I am on the right track and can move forward.

Another thought is about the rain and it making me feel like I've been stuck (much like the winter weather). Well. sitting in pouring rain yesterday for half of the Parelli event, watching people play and ride despite it, made me feel guilty for using it as an excuse. Well. no more, rain of shine, I am going to play!

Just a brief Lola update. We've been playing online and working through emotional thresholds. She seems to get very emotional and defiant when I ask her to play circling game or do the figure eight pattern around something like the barrels. I almost believe at some point in her life, these tasks were done with some kind of undue pressure but I have no way to know and frankly it is irrelevant. In any event, I've been careful to remain in neutral, allow her to have her meltdown and then ask again for the task in a calm but clear manner. This tactic has worked very well and we are making huge leaps of progress. She has been able to work through her issues and I have been able to help her do so without taking her outbursts personally...progress on both our parts! :)

This brings me to the horsenality/humanality part. I have reports for all three horses and myself. Well, this all makes for very interesting reading. I am pleased to report that what I thought to be true is and now, I have even more information to assist me in partnering with my horses! If you have not purchases these reports, what are you waiting for? More to come on this in future posts!

So, in brief the plan is to read the horsenality and humanility reports again, review the patterns, and play!!! I will use these resources, checklists, and gear up for level 3 assessment, this summer (or by fall at the latest). I am also going to try to fit in more Parelli events, even if just to audit. Well, that is the plan and I am sticking to it! :)

Parelli Demo and Games!

2011-05-29T23:04:00.002-04:00

Today, I attended a Parelli Demo and Games Foundation Fundraiser at Friendly Acres in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. The event took a little effort to get to, 2 hours travel and a border crossing but, it was well worth it. The fundraiser was well attended (about 100 auditors and 20 participants) and hosted by 7 Parelli Professionals, Geneviève Benoit, Kari Bowser, Sandy Ruiter, Fawn Anderson, Ron Pyne, Judy Griffiths, and Jeanette Schevers.

I truly enjoyed this opportunity...savvy and support shown by all, no predators, just partners. It was a great opportunity to talk with other like minded horse people and professionals, to get ideas and motivation to go home and play horsey! Not your typical horse event. I stopped attending shows, trail rides, and other venues with horse people because of the lack of compassion and savvy, and because people cared more about ribbons and racing down the trail to beat others to the end than about their horses. I put principles before goals and so did the people at this event. It reminded me once again why I practice PNH and why I am a SCG member. When I got home, my horses all galloped up to me from the playground when they saw me in the driveway (I didn't even have a chance to call them), leaving their green grass behind, they wanted to say hello, get a scratch, and check in...oh what a great feeling that is, to have horses that are partners.

By the way, this is the first of many events of this type planned for Canada. If you are on the fence, consider attending the next one, you won't be sorry!

Weekly Task Challenge: Mounting with Savvy

2011-05-25T23:29:00.000-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

When you mount your horse, do you ask for permission...you should! Remember, you are a predator asking a prey animal to allow you to sit on him! So, this week, work on asking for permission to mount (and dismount), be connected with your partner, you'll see that this task will help your relationship improve! (If you already do this, encourage your horse friends to do the same).

Weekly Task Challenge: Backing in Zone 5

2011-05-18T23:22:00.003-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

You horse will back for you but what about when you are in zone 5? This week's challenge is to play in zone 5 and get your horse to back by the slightest suggestion of touching the tail hair or even at liberty! This is a zone that your horse must ultimately trust you in for this to work. And, remember, be safe and savvy (you don't want to be kicked). Go on, you can do it, can't you?

Check out http://www.parelli.com for educational information.

When someone reaches out...

2011-05-18T11:04:00.003-04:00

When someone reaches out to another person, the consequence is something amazing, at least this is my experience. If you read my blog, I've had the ups and downs in life just like the rest of you. I just choose to share it all in hopes to help others.

Last night, one of my readers (a friend thanks to Facebook) reached out to me because of my post on my weight loss journey road bump. She understands how I am feeling and felt compelled o reach out. The fact that she took the time to connect, to offer to come to my place and spend time together, the fact that she cared about me means more that I can ever express. Her trip to my place will consist of a two hour car ride and a border crossing yet, she is not deterred. She is the kind of human being we all should strive to be, kind, caring, beautiful, and one in a million. I look forward to getting together. We plan to exercise, talk, watch Parelli videos, and of course play with horses. :) I've had others reach out to me as well but this was particularily timely for me and being a fellow Parelli horse lover was the icing on the cake!

If you ever have the chance to reach out to someone, don't hesitate. Any connection you make with another human being is well worth it. Sometimes the smallest gesture means all the difference in the world.

Parelli Colt Starting Naturally - WOW

2011-05-15T23:19:00.001-04:00

So I've been watching the web cast of the Parelli Colt Starting Naturally Event that took place last weekend. Not only am I pleased to be able to enjoy this event, but the affordability couldn't be beat! For $29.95, I have been able to learn so much and never leave the comfort of my living room. I hooked my laptop to to surround sound stereo system and 52" flat screen TV and am enjoying the show! I will continue to watch the segments throughout the week.

If you haven't watched this yet, it is a must see. An awesome display of putting the relationship and the horse first. I am truly enjoying seeing Pat Parelli teaching students rather than just showing off his own skills. His horsemanship truly shines in this program. His kindness and knowledge are demonstrated and I can only image how helpful that is to his students and the horses they are working with. Everyone is doing well, learning a lot, and being respectful. No rules, no time limits, it is not a contest, just a place to learn, grown, and develop young horses. Thank you Pat!

If you were wondering, I've started a few horses in my day and certainly restarted many. I know from watching that I've been on the right track but need to really progress further in a more diligent manner (no more hesitation to move forward)....I am truly learning a great deal.

Keeping it Real...My journey hit a speed bump

2011-05-14T22:35:00.003-04:00

We falter and we fall, but we do not have to fail. We bounce back and resume our journey with renewed energy. That is the power of resilience.

—Edward Grinnan, author of The Promise of Hope

I truly need to believe the quote above because at the moment, I am fighting the feeling that I am a complete failure. Logically I know this is untrue but emotionally can be an entirely different story. My weight has crept up over the last 6 weeks to no one's fault but my own (well maybe Hershey's for making Reese's Peanut Butter Cups so delicious and addictive). I've allowed work-related stress be my excuse and have been making unwise choices. It is amazing how fast I can regain weight when I eat foods that are truly toxic and allergenic, when I over eat sugar and salt, and when I don't exercise (enough--I have to workout like a lunatic to keep things in check). Okay so all that said and out of the way, I am still smiling and moving forward, I have a great attitude, I really do....I will be thin, healthy, happy, and at goal this year, "come hell or high water", "Lord willing and the creek don't rise", and any other way you say it, I am doing it!....but the creeks are rising here really bad lately--another story all together.

Despite sliding backwards on my journey to better health and fitness (darn it), I am being honest and accountable, I am not giving up, and I am moving ahead. This is simply a speed bump. I've decided to continue my WW journey but online only for the summer (rather than meetings 20 miles away). I need horse time and with the weather we are having, I need all the time Ican get and want my Saturdays back. (Can you say commuting in a canoe is a possibility these days---RAIN!) Zumba classes are over at the University, the class at my gym got cancelled, and I won't be attending the Saturday class in order to save Saturdays for horse time. That said, I have plenty to do regarding activity (horses, go to the gym, exercise videos and Zumba at home, running and walking with the dogs, and so much more). I am resuming my journey with renewed energy, energy that my beloved husband, my horses horses, that my dogs and cat give me, an energy to know I am worth it and that I can move forward and find success, reaching my goal, by the end of the year.

For those of you on a similar journey, never give up, it takes a long time, dedication, a few falls, but, in the end, you'll be better for it. I'll keep posting here, keeping it real and honest...I hope that this sharing helps someone else other there because I totally understand how difficult it can be. (Most of us would pay millions for a do-over, lol.)

Just so I don't forget, these are the targets I did reach (even if I am not at all of them at the moment). Targets Reached: Journey Started 1/9/10; 5% Target 2/6/10; 10% Target 3/27/10; 15% Target 5/15/10; 20% Target 7/24/10, Onderland 12/11/10, 25% Target 12/18/10.

Weekly Task Challenge: First Aid for Horses

2011-05-11T23:17:00.001-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Have you ever gone out to the barn and found your horse injured? Well, of course. What about on Sunday and the veterinarian is no where to be found? This week's challenge it to study first aid for you horse. This is not to be a replacement for proper medical attention but, you need to be able to give triage until your veterinarian can help you.

http://www.infohorse.com/equinefirstaid.asp

http://www.petuniversity.com/horses/first-aid-for-horses.htm

http://www.holistichorsekeeping.com/resources/articles/homeopfirstaid.html

Horses Teach People---If you are willing to listen

2011-05-11T15:05:00.000-04:00

It is easy to just push a horse through thresholds, get frustrated, and become a predator to accomplish your goals. It is something altogether different to become a partner, listen, and work together to achieve success--as in putting principles before goals. I strive for the latter but am guilty of the former from time to time (as are most people). I am proud to say that falling into the predator trap is a thing of the past.

The weather has finally become agreeable and now I am able to get outside and enjoy the horses. The other day, I rode each of my horses and experiences different responses to the same activity (bareback riding with a natural hackamore, at the walk, exploring).

Lola did well until I asked her to actually do things for example, walking over a log. She was willing to side pass to the mounting block (or tree stump--that is what it is), walk between tires, walk from here to there, around barrels, but, walking over a log became an issue. I would ask her to walk over it and she would have a temper tantrum. Ringing her head, moving her body in a contorted manner to oppose the request, and even offered a potential buck. After riding her and working on other obstacles,I attempted the log again, a few times, but no success (keep in mind, we've ridden over this log before with great success). I decided to think to myself that this was interesting and dismounted, working on the issue on the ground and reconnecting with her. She initially balked but did walk over the log before the session ended, and without another tantrum. I believe that she truly was interested in walking and eating some grass (I do allow this) but if I wanted to be the leader and guide her, she would question it, not with everything but with some tasks...this is nothing new. LOL

The day before yesterday, I set up the playground with all of the obstacles and decided it was time to play Parelli patterns on the 22' line with Lola. Initially I played the seven games, just the basics to get a foundation, all went well. I then asked her to do a figure-8 around barrels and she had a temper tantrum. She was squealing, balking, and wanted to drag me away. Rather than get frustrated, I stood in a power position as to not get knocked over or dragged, I waited for her to stop, and when she did, I lifted the rope, pointed, and waited. She tried and was successful. We played with this pattern and the barrels and she was fine. It was like a leadership challenge in my mind. We then played touch it, slalom, and other patterns all over the play ground and it was fun. I did ask for a circle at one point and although she started to show signs of another tantrum, it was nothing like before. There was a point where she could not look at me and so, I waited and allowed her time to collect herself and be successful. Overall, I believe it was a fun and a good experience for both of us. Lola teaches me to not be frustrated, to pause, to say "how interesting" and to remember that leadership is not about power but empowering and partnering.

Fosse and I rode out in the big field, same equipment as Lola (just a natural hackamore). We've never done this before and he was fabulous (a wonderful horse he is). We walked around the field on the rail, across it, and in and out of a sand pit. We encountered a deer (it was in the woods near us), birds, and other little critters scooting around and he didn't spook at all. Whiskey and Lola would gallop up to us, trying to initiate play time, ran around us, and then would disappear. Fosse was a perfect partner never offering to spook, doing exactly what was asked of him, and it was fabulous...I love this horse. Fosse teaches me that trust and time truly make a great partnership.

When Fosse and I got back, Whiskey seemed to be standing around despite Fosse and Lola meandering away. I took it as a signal to him wanting to also have a chance to go for a ride. I mounted him bareback after placing the natural hackmore on him. It took some encouragement at first to get him to move out to the field which included me sending Fosse and Lola out there (I was on Whiskey, signaling the other two to move out--they happily did). I walked Whiskey out to the field and we walked on the rail and in across the field. Everything was going well and I thought to myself, wow, my trail horse is present today (you all know Whiskey has multiple horsenalities, right?LOL). In any event, I asked him to walk at the end of the sand pit but around that time, I felt him get very alert. I know this horse and can sense when something is up, I immediately took up mane and rein in my right hand, put myself in the passenger position, and had my left hand ready to do a one-rein emergency stop. Good thing too because he spooked at some deer out in the woods. Whiskey lurched and jumped forward out of the sandpit onto the field and I proceeded to spin him into about 5 strong, fast, tight, circles. The request to flex and circle for me was automatic and not a harsh, scary request. It was a light, phase 1 response on my part and he responded. Whiskey teaches me that things are not always what them seem, that I need to trust my instincts, and that I need to be patient with him, allowing him time to process. Doing all of this allows him to trust me despite him being right-brained.

My closing thought is to always take each moment as it comes, that these moments are all learning opportunities, and that horses teaching humans, to me, is almost more important than humans teaching horses.

Life Is Short--Wear Your Party Breeches!

2011-05-05T19:06:00.006-04:00

Okay, so the title of this post is a shameless play on a book titled, "Life is Short-Wear Your Party Pants," by Loretta LaRoche. However, it was also the inspiration of this post so I decided it was fair game. *grins*

A colleague of mine, a fabulous librarian and wonderfully caring human being, passed along this book to me. As I've written before, I am always working towards never ending self-improvement, that I am consistently working on communication and leadership skills, and that this all transcends into my personal and professional lives. I have a huge stack of books and articles to read on a variety of subjects, many passed along by friends and colleagues, many found in other readings, but my personality was really drawn to this book despite it not being first in the pile. I guess the quirky idea of party pants was the magnet (or perhaps the cute illustrations, LOL.It is a book about bringing happiness to your life, about remembering what is truly important, and that embracing stress rather than dwelling on it may actually bring you joy and freedom (among other things--read the book!). I've only just started reading it and already, found myself compelled to share, I want everyone to read this book, it is truly amazing, simplistic, yet powerful and for me, oh so timely.

As luck would have it, a fellow Parelli enthusiast, Shannon, e-mailed me today about her blog, Seeking Savvy. The reason you ask, well because I inspired her to join Weight Watchers and work on her physical fitness, and she posted my name and blog URL on her blog (OMG-how flattering is that?!). What struck me after feeling excited about my name in print somewhere other than on my own online venues was that she listed her goals, short and long term, very concise, very achievable.

I have had many people tell me how inspired they felt from my stories and ramblings, from seeing me and working with me in person, how my life's journey (or journeys) have inspired them to make significant changes in their lives. Changes related to horsemanship, health and wellness, personal growth and leadership (to mention a few).

So what do the book, the blog, and the comments have in common? Why am I bringing them up? I guess the reason is that I've been struggling with my journey to better health for about a month. I've allowed work stress to affect my life, my eating and exercise habits have suffered, and I have been feeling very guilty and down about it (particularly because I've experiences a few false starts when trying to get back at it 100%).

I was on a total high, doing great, screaming through March like lightening, hit my all time weight loss low, heading towards my 30% loss, and then April hit, things got crazy, and I let my emotions take over my brain (and Reese's became a staple---not good people)! I am not sure why this obstacle rears its ugly head for me, why I cannot seem to just stay the course all of the time. I do take full responsibility for my actions but I must say, it is beyond frustrating (and embarrassing really).

Remembering I am human is truly difficult, especially because I tend to lean into being a perfectionist (a dangerous place to be--I've written about this before). So here I sit, writing about struggling, revealing my secrets, and thankfully, my close friends and husband remind me that despite my recent difficulties, I still have a great deal to be proud of, and that I still have made huge strides in the journey to better health despite this set-back. The problem is, when I am struggling in this area of my life, I start dwelling on those other things I have not accomplished in my life (yet). I start believing ridiculous falsehoods that I am unsuccessful and never will be. Very contrary to reality of course, but my mind just loves to mess with me! I am successful in so many aspects of my life, I am thankful, really I am (successful career, marriage, great home/farm, wonderful critters, and success with horses in PNH, etc.) and frankly, should be grateful, all of the time and shouldn't dwell in the pity party zone.

So, the book is great and helping me understand how to deal with stress in a better manner, that often times what you see is not what you always get (or what reality is), and that life is too short to sweat the small stuff. The blog post reminded me that goal setting works and particularly for me, this task keeps me focused, and finally, actually listening (and believing) what people tell me, means a great deal and that I need to remember and realize what reality is. I love reminders, I know all of these things but right now, reminders are vital--thank you all!

I suppose this post is nothing more than that of mindless ramblings or perhaps a way for me to simply rationalize and move forward. (My apologies for sure.) I do plan to get to my weight loss goal by the end of the year, I do need to manage my emotions and remember that reality is not always what it seems, that I have control over how I react and behave in all situations, and that I cannot compel others to do what I want...all of the time, LOL. I do know that I can reach my horse goals this year as well, but that I must accept the limitations that the weather and my schedule impose (it's called life). And, finally, I affirm that I have a great life, that I am happy, and that I am worth the effort. :)

Keep it natural friends, be savvy, love yourself, love your horses (and other furry and feathered critters), love your friends, love your family, and remember, life is too short, wear your party breeches! BIG HUGS PEOPLE!

Weekly Task Challenge: Trailer Safety Check Time!

2011-05-04T13:52:00.003-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week's challenge is all about getting your trailer ready! Can you believe it is May already? Time to get to horsey play dates, shows, trail rides, or whatever your pleasure is.

Recently, I removed everything from my trailer, assessed the floor boards, mats, any rust, and just did a basic spring cleaning. I plan to take it to a body shop for an estimate and in the least, when the weather breaks, give is a nice bath, buffing, and wax job. In addition, I need to evaluate my first-aid kit, put the tack back in it that I believe belongs, emergency road kit, get paperwork in order (registration and inspection), and so much more! Tires, did anyone say tires? Be sure to check yours for cracks, trad wear, and of course, proper inflation (don't forget the spare). Hauling a horse is a great responsibility not to be taken lightly.

I challenge you this week to do much of what I've done and certainly share more tips and ideas here in the comments section!

You know you love Parelli when...

2011-05-02T23:44:00.000-04:00

Your darling husband hangs a Parelli Banner/Flag in the house...I love living in a log home...too fun! (Special thanks to Rick who got up on a 28 foot extension ladder to not only vacuum the ceiling, rafters, and ceiling fan but, to hang the flag!! Love you honey! oxox

On an update note, April was a crazy, off-kilter month. Work was nutsy and my eating/exercise habits totally suffered. I am still trying to get totally back on track but find myself struggling a bit. If only the weather would cooperate--I feel much better with some sunshine and outside time playing horsey!

The horses themselves are doing great. I've had a few impromptu rides on them and they are all acting like the wonderful partners that they are! I am rally looking forward to the summer! I still have high hopes for a clinic but reality tells me it probably wont happen, again. So, I guess video assessment will have to be the agenda...yeah, still need to tape level 3 and 4. *Sigh*

Fun in the field...yeah spring!

2011-04-22T21:22:00.004-04:00

(Left to Right: Fosse, Whiskey, Lola)

So the horses got to go have some fun in the field. You should have seen them running around and heard them---the hooves were pounding like a racetrack! I am fortunate to have a field that stays high and dry despite the rain (thank goodness for sand). Fosse and Whiskey (Arabians)were running like lightening, Lola (Quarter Horse) tried very hard to keep up with them, and they all had fun--running, bucking, rearing, tossing their heads, playing king of the mountain (well hill, lol), and visiting with me! I was able to play with them for a bit at liberty, they ate grasss (despite it still being dead from the winter), and I enjoyed watching them play and streatch their minds and bodies. Anyhow, no long post, just wanted to share a few pics...

To view all of the photos taken today (and many others), please go to my Facebook page.

The New Building

2011-04-19T22:01:00.001-04:00

Image from: http://iruntheinternet.com/0385

Our farm is certainly taking shape. We have many more plans but are finally feeling like we can see the end of the tunnel. Recently, we purchased a new building (14'W x 36'L - high wall with loft storage). I cannot even begin to tell you how excited this makes both Rick and I. What it means is that I get the entire Quonset Barn to myself for the horses (as we'd always hoped), he has a workshop, and we have a place to store things that have been crammed in the house! CLICK HERE to see some photos of the progress thus far. Now to continue planning for an indoor arena! I really wish the money fairy would stop by. I don't need anything too huge, a 62'W x 100'L would work! :)

What a wonderful day!

2011-04-03T20:41:00.003-04:00

I was a gorgeous day here today with temperatures in he 50'sF. The sun was shining, the wind was a bit much at times but all in all, a beautiful day. Being Sunday, I decided to take some time to rest and gear up for another long and busy week. It all started with sleeping in...yes, I finally slept in until 9am! I couldn't believe it really, I never sleep in but the dogs convinced me to stay in bed this morning. The unfortunate consequence of lots of exercise and probably staying in bed too long this morning was a stiff back. So, I took it easy in he morning and did a little yoga to stretch it out a bit.

By noon, I felt better and ventured outside and walked to the barn to see the horses. I groomed Lola and trimmed her hooves. She is such a nice horse, very sweet and very curious. However, she does have her moments and tries to rule what is going on. Just at the moment that I was thinking the trim was going well, easy, with little to no objections, she started acting up. Rather then feed into her negative energy, I relaxed myself, and remembered that it was not about me. I sat down, massaged the leg of the foot that she was fussing about and she calmed down, I could hear her take a deep breath and a big sigh, then I began working again. She is quite responsive when I ask her move from here to there but did balk a few time, once again, not feeding into the negative energy, I was able to diffuse the situation much faster that in the past. Overall, a good interaction. Afterwards, I played with all three of them, just running around and goofing off really. I need to trim Fosse and Whiskey but, two hours of time with Lola and the boys had passed and I needed to get back to the house.

After having my lunch, I relaxed in the rocking chair. My journal and computer on my lap, I fell asleep almost instantly, Rick kept watching me apparently and retrieved my computer, journal, and pen before they fell. He said I instantly fell asleep! So, he sent me upstairs to take a nap (something I never do). It was great, I woke up two hours later full of energy! So, I decided to take Morgan out for a run. Morgan and I headed towards town, Android in hand, and did walk/run intervals to Zumba music for 45 minutes.We've walk a song, run a song, walk a song, etc. It felt great, our first run of the season! I am much stronger this year and amazed at how fit I truly am. Had you told me last January, when this all started, that I'd this physically fit, much thinner, and happy, I'd have argued to the contrary. It has been hard work but well worth it. I plan to buy a pair of Reebok Run Tones in the next few weeks...I hear they are wonderful. I am running in Asics Nimbus 11's right now and love them! The Reeboks would jsut be in addition to them (thinking about the Nimbus 12's too).

At the Weight Watchers meeting this week, they talked about support networks and weight-loss buddies and such. Well, to me, Morgan is my greatest fitness partner! We have so much fun walking, running, and exploring. She makes working out fun and enjoyable. It is not to say that I don't like to workout without her but, it certainly is more fun with her! (I love exercise.) When we got back to my place, I visited with the horses again and fed them while Morgan was running around, especially in the round pen area--she loves the sand. Afterwards, we headed to the house. Morgan is really tired...she will sleep really well tonight! If you don't have a fitness buddy, consider getting one, a dog, another person your horse, etc. It makes it all so much more enjoyable (and you become even more accountable).

The latest, greatest, just a little update!

2011-04-02T20:16:00.009-04:00

Fosse - Winter 2011

Well, it has been a while since I've posted and I do apologize. I've been swamped at work and just hadn't any time! Just this past week, I was getting up at 4am most days, going to the gym for the typical elliptical/treadmill/weight machines workout (90min) or Zumba class (60min), then work all day, Zumba classs (60min) after work, and home (where I'd do more work that could be actually work related or home related). I started running again (just at the gym for now) and am looking forward to picking it up again with Morgan (my great Dane) now that the weather is improving. I am also really looking forward to getting back to the horses!

Annie and Morgan on Our First Walk - March 2011

Morgan - Winter 2011

I mean, we've done little things together but, frankly, it has been a long, cold winter and I didn't have much time outside with them (as you all probably already know). A horse friend of mine told me yesterday that I need to just suck it up and just go outside (not perhaps in those words). I understand her point but felt bad about the comment. It made me feel guilty, like I was a bad horse person or something.

Lola and Annie - Winter 2011

Well, I don't know, since living in Virginia, maybe I've become a wimp but, I just didn't have any inclination to spend time outside in the wind and cold nor do I believe the horses would have enjoyed it much--but then again, I am probably wrong, they live out there! Had I an indoor arena, I know I'd have been doing more because I'd have been out of the wind at least. The horses are thriving and doing very well despite the cold. I am hoping to get out tomorrow and trim hooves, groom, and maybe ride--depending on the condition of the footing of course.

Whiskey - Winter 2011

I've finished the 28-day Cambiati Detox/Cleanse and feel better than ever! I feel so happy all of the time, healthy, and focused. My mind is clear, my body is feeling strong and fit, and my soul is glowing! This program was life altering for me, I know, crazy, huh? I've discovered so much about myself, above and beyond anything related to food, and I believe I am healthier now more than ever, mind, body, and soul. I decided to do another 28-day course so I immediately restarted the program. I am even coaching others through it now, very rewarding indeed. Kind of a pay it forward activity I suppose. If any of you are interested, just let me know and I can send you more information. This morning was my weekly Weight Watchers meeting. I find that although I enjoy the meetings, my needs and knowledge of myself and of foods, toxins, physical exercise and such, may have outgrown the core of that program. What I mean is that WW is a great program but more superficial regarding foods and nutrition. I am really working on understanding wholefoods, raw foods, the body and the impact of foods, the environment, the psychological ramifications, and other factors that affect the human body. However, I am continuing to attend meetings and weigh-in weekly to have accountability and accurately track my weight on a professional scale. I am proud to share that today's weigh-in was another milestone. I've reached an all time high (or low, lol) of 70.4 pounds gone! I cannot believe it! And, I am finally feeling like I've made true progress. What I mean is, I can finally look in the mirror and acknowledge a change. It has taken a long time for my brain to catch up with the reality of my transformation, quite an interesting situation really.

I have more to go and will be at goal this year! I have had a great deal of support from all kinds of people. Just today, I received this email--it made me feel so good! "Hi Michelle! Just want to tell you how beautiful you looked this morning! You had a glow about you! Your skin looks amazing! I'm sure it is the healthy diet and the detox that you have been doing! Keep up the good work! You inspire me and I'm sure many others! Because of you, I want to have an amazing week! Thanks!" --(name omitted for privacy)

I cannot wait to ride the horses---they are going to be so happy to have a lighter partner! Well, I guess that is it for this brief update, just working hard at the University, exercising & eating right, gearing up for the horse season, and enjoying my life! I hope you all are doing well and feeling great!

Weekly Task Challenge: April Showers 4 Week Plan

2011-04-01T23:34:00.000-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This month, rather than post challenges all month, I am posting a challenge this week that will take you the month to complete! For many of us, it is raining and the weather is less than supportive to our horse activities. This week, create a written plan of what you will be doing with your horse, despite the weather. Pick one area of concern for each of the next four weeks and create a plan. Each week, you should work no less than three times in the week on what you've determined as an area for improvement. At the week's end, review your plan and do a written evaluation of your progress. Share here what you did!

Weekly Task Challenge: Time to Study

2011-03-30T21:39:00.000-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!) This week's task is simple, create a study plan (write it down) and start studying your Parelli materials in anticipation of play time because spring is here! Review your videos, read your print materials, get yourself in the horse frame of mind, ready to play and make progress this year!

Weekly Task Challenge: Reading Assignment - Spring Founder

2011-03-23T21:31:00.005-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week's task is to start thinking about and reading about spring grass founder. Are you prepared, is your horse ready? Hopefully the weather will warm up and the grass will grow. And, if it does, you'll have to be prepared to wean your horse back onto the beautiful grass. Below are some resources for you to check out, please add more in the comments section!

READING LIST:

Founder and Spring Pastures By: Stephanie Valberg, DVM, PhD; Paul Peterson, PhD and Krishona Martinson, PhD http://www.extension.umn.edu/forages/pdfs/Founder_and_spring_pastures.pdf

Spot the Hoof Disease Laminitis Early By Christine Barakat http://www.equisearch.com/magazines/Equus/spotlaminitis_032305

Laminitis Treatment: A Natural Medicine Perspective By Joyce Harman DVM MRCVS and Madalyn Ward DVM http://www.hoofcare.com/article_pdf/HoofcareHarmanWardNat418EC.pdf

Founder in Horses by Kerry O’Connell http://home.mcn.net/~kerryo/founder.htm

Lush spring pastures can be dangerous temptations for horses. By Dr. Tom Lenz of AQHA Corporate Partner Fort Dodge Animal Health http://americashorsedaily.com/grass-founder/

Grass Founder By Richard Mansmann and Christine King http://www.aaep.org/health_articles_view.php?id=66

Active Listening...It is so important.

2011-03-18T19:29:00.006-04:00

When you listen, do you always hear what is being communicated? You can but only if you learn the art of active listening. When it comes to horses, I actively listen to their body language, I look for cues, I try to communicate, and above all, give them everything I can to make them happy and healthy. I treat horses (and all of my other animals, friends, and family) with the utmost respect, with all the care I can muster, and always seek never-ending improvement in all the things I do for or with them. My horses are doing great, happy that spring is on the way, and tomorrow, should be really happy to get their feet trimmed, bodies groomed, and eat some yummy carrots (oh, and of course hang out with me)! Riding will have to wait a bit, the ground is saturated and in many places, looks like a pond...yuck.

So, tell me why, when I am on the right road to better health (and overall doing great-never giving up), knowing that I need to actively listen to my body and not my mind (when it is going in the wrong direction), do I go down the wrong path with it? My mother used to always say that everything in life for me would come and I'd be successful but, I'd more likely than not, take the most difficult road to get there - thus far, she's been right! (Thanks, mom.)

Yesterday afternoon, I posted the following on Cambiati's Facebook page:

"Tomorrow is Day 18 for me. I have a plan (all written down), my pantry and fridge are stocked and everything is prepped, I've written myself little love notes to keep myself motivated and strategically placed them throughout my journal. So, wish me luck! I've never have blended only meal days in my life, and definitely not four in a row! LOL :) I had a mini "in my head" moment this evening about it but, I am okay now, I am ready, and I am excited!"

What I was referring to was the fact that days 18-21 (of the 28-day program) in the detox/cleanse were a challenge and I was meeting the challenge straight on. the reason they are a challenge is that it is 4 days of only blended foods. This portion of the program is to not only allow the body to shed toxins, but to allow the breaking of emotional attachments to food, to teach the mind that food does not have a hold on our bodies, and take habit out of the picture replacing it with conscious thought. When I got home, I reviewed my plan being sure to have everything written down, and even wrote little love notes and notes of accomplishment in my journal that I'd "run into" during the next four days as ways to encourage myself. I shared my strategy with Rick and we talked a lot about all of this (he remarking about how proud he was of me and that he was impressed with all of the time and energy I was putting into working on myself). It felt great to hear that.

All of this said, I need to share (at the prompting of my best-horse friend, Clare), that I had a complete meltdown last night and the consequences were horrific. In sharing this, I hope that I can help one of you remember to be honest with yourself, be open-minded, understand that you are human, realize that being willing to think and do things outside your comfort zone in any aspect of your life is important, and if you make a mistake, own it and move on.

Last night, I was on my way home from work, the plan was to have a healthy version of a St. Patrick's Day meal while Rick indulged on corned beef. I made braised cabbage and carrots (that was lovely), roasted sweet potato, salad, and instead of cooking a piece of chicken (or other learn protein), I purchased a rotisserie chicken, despite the fact that often times, in the past, they made me ill (unless it was prepared from scratch, at home, on my grill by master chicken chef, Rick). I am now convinced that there was stuff on it and perhaps in it (wheat, sugar, salt, and who knows what--you know toxins, allergens, things I need to stay away from and know it). When I was eating it and afterwards, I was not feeling satisfied with my meal and felt hungry despite eating more than my share. I was just not feeling centered at all, anxious, hungry, and upset inside (emotionally and physically). My body was reacting and my mind had ruled the events leading up to these feelings via the choice I made while shopping. (Life is all about choices, sometimes I don't make the best ones even though I know better--why is that anyway? hmmm.)

Then, fast forward to 9:30pm or so, I had detox tea because I was feeling anxious (which helped) but by 10pm I knew that I needed to go to bed "or else". I had been totally on track for the past 17 days. However, I got all caught up in watching CNN, reading job postings, checking out other news online, and talking to Rick. Rick was still making his dinner (corned beef, fries in the oven, salad, etc). I tasted a bite of corned beef when it was done (this was about 11:00pm now, maybe 11:30pm). You know, the "just one bite" taste that won't hurt anything? (yeah right) This "just a taste" flung me into an eating frenzy of way too much corned beef and then lots of fries. I didn't feel sick or anything but knew that the next day was the so-called, "day 18" for me and although I knew I was ready, my hopes were that I didn't undo the last 17 days or work! I contacted my Cambiati coach (and Arbonne consultant) and asked her opinion. I was so utterly upset with myself thinking that I was so stupid, and knew that now I was craving sugar--I had not craved sugar since I started the cleanse. :( (This is what happens when I eat non-Cambiati friendly foods I described and all the feelings that come along with not taking care of myself.)

So anyhow, that brings me to this morning. 6am I get up, let the dogs out, I relieve my bladder, and then sat in my rocker. My intention was to work out before heading out but after going to the bathroom, I had this horrible feeling in my lower abdomen. It was not cramps per se but something was seriously wrong and I knew it, this was not a normal tummy ache. My body was again trying to talk to me and it got my attention this time. It is hard to describe really but just a strange pain that was almost akin to a tension and unease of sorts, something was amiss and going very wrong. It reminded me of the feeling I had when I had gall bladder attacks which were horrible and life-threatening (If you recall, I had a 3.3 cm stone and the doctors removed it and the gall bladder stating that had I another attack, I could have expired). Those attacks were horrific, I had cold sweats, could not breath, felt like I was having a heart attack, would almost pass out, vomiting, diarrhea, crying, uncontrollable shaking, feelings of freezing and being over heated all at the same time, serious amounts of pain and suffering that would last hours and hours and were accompanied by anxiety attacks because I was terrified and thought I was dying. During those attacks, I'd want to call 911 (but never did--you know, didn't want to bother anyone).

Well this morning, I had most of those symptoms except for the heart attack stuff and I could breathe if I'd just stop hyperventilating, I felt like calling 911 but instead tried to call my husband (who was sleeping up on the loft) using my cell phone, that I fortunately grabbed on my way into the bathroom (not sure why, I never do this), and I couldn't even dial the right number. The blood had left my head and I was starting to pass out, kept calling myself, could not think how to dial the home phone or what the number was (and yes, it was in the speed dial), and fortunately, my Great Dane Morgan was there and I managed to call out loud enough for Rick to hear me. It is interesting because he typically is a very sound sleeper but since the gall bladder days, if I am in trouble, he hears me (he does not hear me when he is snoring like a freight train though, lol). Rick rushed downstairs asked what was wrong, and got me a cold washcloth. He stayed up until I was ready to stand again and walk upstairs. I laid down for about an hour (on his prompting) rather than workout, before getting up again to get ready for work. (There is no way I could have worked out.)

The feelings that I had this morning, not only physical but emotional and mental were a true reminder of how important it is for me to live a Cambiati-clean lifestyle (a toxin-free existence--remember toxins can be food, chemicals, medications, environmental, etc). That indulgences on anything that I know don't work for me are simply not worth it 9for so many reasons). As I type this I feel like crying, perhaps out of guilt, fear, and happiness, and many other emotions. I am so much more aware of my body and its needs and I just have to listen to it, all of the time, without hesitation. I finally realized that I had literally poisoned myself and my body was taking care of the toxins but wow, that was just terrifying and enlightening!

Since today is day 18, and I had a plan (all written down), I decided to continue with one alteration in my plan (flexibility is important in our lives, in all aspects). I opted to let my body settle down and not eat until lunch, drinking some detox tea instead (and taking some detox support supplements). It was a wise choice and made me feel more centered and much better physically. I sit here writing to you all, this evening, totally on track and feeling very good again.

I suppose my point is that even though we are great caretakers of other people, our animals, and any other being that crosses our paths, people, and in my viewpoint, particularly women, have tendency to ignore their own needs. If I don't take care of myself, I cannot take care of my horses, my dogs, my kitty, my husband, my friends or other family members, etc. because I won't be here to do so. If I am not here, lost is my horsemanship journey and all of my dreams. Isn't this just another example of principles before goals? I cannot reach my goals if I don't keep my principles in check, period, that is how it works! Therefore, I vow to try my best to continue to take better care of myself and enjoy the journey to physical, mental, and emotional fitness...a horse's dream, to have a human partner with all of those aspects in perfect harmony.

Weekly Task Challenge:Spring Cleaning - Manure!

2011-03-14T21:16:00.001-04:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

If your place is anything like mine, winter is ending and the snow is thawing which can only mean one thing...mud season! Well, in addition to mud, I've got a lot of manure to remove. I know how I'm going to do it, how about you? I am not only going to remove the manure (by hand and with a borrowed skid steer, but we will be composting it for our garden. We grow most of our vegetables for the year and our horses help! So, this week's task is all about manure. Write down a plan not only of how you will commence with the spring manure cleanup but, make another list of how you might use this valuable natural resource! Remember, reduce, reuse, recycle! :)

Being thankful amidst great tragedy

2011-03-14T12:23:00.007-04:00

Image from the NY Daily News.

*To view footage of flooding (not the same flood that is in the photo above) as the Tsunami came in, click on this link (you'll need to be logged into Facebook). Please note, the imagery and sounds are not only breath-taking but, you'll find yourself upset inside and speechless.

It certainly should not take a tragedy like the ~~8.9~~ upgraded to 9.0 magnitude earthquake that rocked northern Japan on March 11, 2011, the devastating 33-foot tsunami that followed, explosions and radiation leaks at the nuclear power plant (causing more than 180,000 people to flee), nor the seemingly unrelated but frightening volcanic eruption to the south to make us thankful but sometimes, it is precisely a historic and incredible event like this that shakes a person up, leaving them thinking about life and the true meaning of being thankful. (To date, the death toll is still rising, and is said to most likely be in the tens of thousands.) Did you know that the Island of Japan has moved eight feet from this event? Can you even imagine that?

I don't know that I need to go in depth about all of this, I mean being thankful, it is a no-brainer, right? And, I am certain that if you are reading a natural horsemanship blog, you are a great deal like me. But, I wanted to share here, some of the things I am thankful for. It is not a complete list but a few thoughts that immediately passed through my mind when the horrid natural disaster news came across my television. I hope that you consider, if not here in the comments, somewhere in your life, write down a few of your things to be thankful for, it is a great reminder of just how lucky we are.

I am thankful for...

Thankful for my husband and his kind nature, his love, support, and for always being there.
Thankful for my beautiful animals, the horses, dogs, and kitty that share my life (and all those you did).
Thankful for my family and friends, near and far.
Thankful for what I have in life, those material things that make life a bit easier.
Thankful to have a wonderful career.
Thankful for my health and my life, my mind, and the opportunity to make a difference, even if just in a small way.
Thankful for having an abundunce of food and water, and the ability to grow it.
And, there is so much more...I am a very fortunate person and need to remember that.

Never again (I hope) will I complain about not having the perfect house, the perfect horse facilities, enough time, enough money, needing a vacation, etc. The people in Japan, at this very moment, are left with nothing but their lives (if they were lucky). They are starving and having difficulty finding the basics (food and water), people are dead all around, everything is gone, in a blink of an eye. My heart is very heavy my friends....Words cannot properly describe any of this or make sense of it, not really. Please, be thankful, show that you care, to your family, your friends, your animals, even to strangers. Be kind, be thoughtful, make connections with those around you, life is too short not to.

Update...Go hug your pets people...life is too short and uncertain. This little dog in Japan (video) won't leave his injured canine companion...*tears*

Update...World Vets Japan Disaster Relief International Aid for Animals

For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Update...Brief news from my region of the world, we experienced a ~~3.7~~ upgraded to 4.7 magnitude earthquake on March 16th, 2011. I didn't feel this one but, did feel the 5.5 magnitude quake back in June 23, 2010.

Rediscovering the WHY...

2011-03-11T07:06:00.008-05:00

I've been pondering the why is several aspects of my life lately. Why did I become a librarian? Why Parelli Natural Horsemanship? Why start the journey to better health? Why did I choose Weight Watchers? Why Cambiati 28-Day Program? Why live in New York? Why was I so lucky to have my soul mate, Rick come into my life? And, so much more. The question why often naturally leads to the other question, why not? I am not sure what has sparked these questions, perhaps my age, perhaps a feeling of mortality, in some cases a feeling of satisfaction and in some, a feeling of needing to make a change. When I think about my time on Earth, it just is not long enough and I sometimes feel like there will never be enough time to do it all.

My path to becoming a librarian was not a straight course, it was not on my radar, but it happened. I believe that it was a great choice, I am well suited for the profession and thrive in what I do. It allows me to enjoy the other aspects of my life. I do believe that moving into an administrative position was important for my career development and to satisfy my need to move up and onward, to always be faced with challenges, and to lead people, programs,and make never-ending progress. I thought I'd be a veterinarian or attorney but, librarian is what happened. The why doesn't matter as much as the why not which is how I got to grad school and now, at the top of my profession.

Why Parelli? If you started reading my blog when it first started, I talked about that. The blog post was called, "The beginning of my journey." It chronicled, in brief, the fact that I'd been involved with horses for most of my life, was severely injured, left the horse world but just could not stay away, saw Pat on TV, and that was that, I was hooked. I don't regret my decision as I believe this does not mean I am perfect or that I get nearly enough time to spend with my horses, I have so much to learn and who knows if I ever will. However, no matter the level of my proficiency, I am a better horse person for it and my horses enjoy a better life having a partner and leader.

I chose the road to better health because frankly it was do or die. It was either lose weight eat right, get fit, be active or become incapable of doing anything horse related and likely get sick, become immobile, and die. You've all read my stops and starts but, I've never given up on myself. I can say that had I been smarter, I'd have never had to go down this road but, I believe I was meant to. For some reason, I needed to learn the lessons of taking care of oneself and so here I am, working really hard at it. Weight Watchers was something introduced to me years ago and I like the structure. Cambiati of course is very new and I feel like it is perfect for me. It is structured, logical, it gives me what WW does not, the knowledge and tools to truly understand what my body needs and know how to listen to it, not just what the mind is secretly telling me to do. WW is good but, they say you can eat anything, that is simply not true, not if you want to be truly healthy and take a holistic approach to your health and well-being. They are endorsing eating healthier choices but are also guilty of providing the public with processed junk food. In any event, I am doing what is best for me, a combination of programs that makes it all work for me.

New York? Well, I was born here, left, and came back - but to a different region. I look at job opportunities not only for the positions but, for the beauty of the area and that is the how/why I've moved around. Virginia was gorgeous and we were there for the time we were meant to be. Where I live now is beautiful (mountains to the east and the river to the west with all kinds of places in between). I don't know if I will stay forever, there are many factors in that, but I do know, for now, I am happy (despite not having "perfect" horse facilities. I am really hooked on the idea of Nova Scotia--never been there, want to vacation there for sure, live there? Who knows, life is too short to say no and, I've checked, there are Parelli people there, a few anyway! I also have a colleague from NS who has family interested in meeting up.

As far as Rick, well we met over twenty years ago, married for love and last year, he asked me to marry him again (and I did). We didn't have a fancy wedding either time and have no regrets. The why is becuase we knew we were meant to be and mark my words, we will be the couple that is married for 80 years (yeah, I was 18, he was 21 when we married--true love birds).

I am not sure where I am going with all of this except to say that asking why is important, especially if you are struggling with an aspect in your life. The WHY is the motivator and if you don't have a good answer, if you lack motivation, you may be on the wrong path. Remembering the why helps people regain focus, make difficult decisions, and allows for moving forward.

Weekly Task Challenge: What is your motivation?

2011-03-09T06:33:00.002-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

So what is your motivation to have horses? They are expensive, take a great deal of work, and yet, we all just love them! This week's challenge is to explore your motivation for being involved with horses. Why do you hsve them, why do you want to play with them, whasat goals are you working on? If your motivation is waning, especially because many of us have been and continue to be experiencing a long winter, I have listed a few resources to help you understand and explore your motivation...maybe even kick it back in gear!

Motivation 123

Motivation via Wikipedia

Increase Motivation from Pick the Brain

Motivation from Psychology Today

Motivate Us

Hallelujah - Embrace Change

2011-03-05T15:02:00.004-05:00

Image from: http://www.wildlifehotspots.com/Shaun%20LoweCapeBreton.jpg

Well, I am really happy about today's weigh-in. I lost 12.4 lbs, which means I am at 25% body weight lost yielding a total of 65.4lbs lost. I am also back in Onderland (197.2lbs) and two pounds from my highest loss (that was back in Dec). My short term goal was to get back to 25% off by St. Patrick's Day and I am early! So, I am doing really well, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I don't expect such a big loss again but, I believe that ridding my body and not filling it with toxic foods made a difference and allowed it to release some of the water it was retaining in an attempt to protect my cells. Listening to my body and not just my mind has made a huge difference in so many ways. Cambiati (kam-bee-ah-ti) is an Italian word that means changed (some translate it as to change). As I continue on my journey on the program, today is day 5 (although I did some "pre-detoxing/cleansing" for 3 days prior), I am changed, for the better, and look forward to more change in the future, a change for the better, a change to my lifetime goal of being healthy (and thin) again.

So, is this the same as listening to our horse's body language and signals, understanding his needs rather than just trying to force the horse to do what we want? I think so! This change in horsemanship style or philosophy is needed if we are going to make the world a better place for horses. Being open minded, willing, and honest about what our horses want/need and what we want/need is the first step to facilitate change.

I embrace change in all aspects in my life. Where some fear it, I believe change is a positive step in exploration and the only way to make progress. I guess I am am explorer of sorts, exploring all aspects of my life, seeking never-ending improvement, knowledge, and happiness. I figure I get one chance at a good life and that it is not something I am owed but something I earn. (Now to find a way to go on an exploration of Nova Scotia (see photo above)--a place I truly desire to visit--yes, I still need a vacation). LOL

Have a lovely weekend everyone, go kiss your horse, hug your significant other, and embrace yourself.

A few insights based on coaching sessions...for some, like a fish out of water.

2011-03-04T10:30:00.011-05:00

Sometimes you may feel like a fish of water when learning something new, but this position is actually a great place to be in because it leads to development, growth, and new opportunities.

Do you remember the first time you picked up a carrot stick or the first time you read Pat Parelli's Natural Horse-Man-Ship book? What about the first time you tried to use the 45' line, you know, that waxy, stiff rope? I remember when I got my first Parelli Partnership Level 1 kit. This is the one with the audio cassette and VHS tape with pocket guides. This partnership pack is often referred to as the "old level 1." In it Pat recommends using the carrot stick and savvy string on a fence to practice learning the movements and better understand the feel of the string and stick before using it with our horse. I did it and my neighbor watched me with her face pressed against the window, curtains drawn wide, I was a spectacle. It wasn't that I was not good at it, I found the task to be simple and it went well. However, not only was she not a horse person and had no clue what I was doing, we were living in the south in rural Southwest Virginia, in the mountains, and we were "Yankees." We may as well have been aliens from another planet and this didn't make things any easier! Here I was, this strange horse woman who was also the main provider in my household, who was a career womanmoving for my job (not Rick's), bought my house before my husband saw it (although I had to have him sign off before we could put a contract on it because the man selling the place refused to sell to me without my husband's approval--Rick and I shrugged and laughed about it because to us, that was ridiculous), oh yeah, and we had a washer and dryer in the house (dishwasher too)--yes, this was a hugely big deal to this woman and to some others in our area. Despite the materials being foreign to a person who was not exposed to natural horsemanship before (me), despite my neighbor constantly staring at me (and this went on for the entire time I lived there, my arena (the one we built) was across the road from her house (everyone wanted to buy it to put a mobile home on and could not understand why I'd waste it for horses), I did it, I persevered and here I am, a PNH Level 3 student. :)

The awkward moments I talk about seem uncomfortable, embarrassing perhaps, or even difficult but, the time you took (or I took) to pursue and persist, to learn, to grow has certainly paid off and because of it, we all are better horse people for it.

As I continue on my journey to better health, and on my 28-day detox/cleanse, I am continually learning more and more about myself. I believe this is all knowledge that transcends the healthy journey to a weight goal and certainly will touch me for the rest of my life. My mind reels with new information and as I type this, I feel complete and utter joy, tears well in my eyes, not because I am saddened but because I am extremely happy, and I feel great! I cannot stop smiling this morning...I am laughing at myself. I have been feeling excellent all week, better than ever actually. Amazingly clear, focused, and totally in my zen place. (And, this is my "female time--not to over share but it is important because I am shocked that I am not feeling like an out of control lunatic, like I have been for a few years during this time, but now, I am totally at peace.) I believe the work/study I am doing on detox/cleanse and understanding how my body and food relate is probably the most important thing I've done for myself in a very long time. It is not easy, actually quite complicated but, a mission I need to accomplish. If it makes a difference for me,it certainly impacts all who share my life and on many levels, horses and humans alike.

Here are a few words of wisdom from yesterday's coaching sessions...

--Your relationship with food should be a metaphor for other things in your life.

--The 80/20 rule (remember 80% on internal checking on one self) is like Yoga of everyday life. Tell your body, "I'm here for and with you, I feel you." Check inside yourself asking, "How do you feel? How do you feel about the food? How are you doing with this bite? Did you have enough?"

-- Have a conversation with your fat...think about what it is doing for you (and that is not always negative). Find the positives and have a conversation with your fat. For example, recognize that it is there to protect you (could be you used it as a place to hide from the world, it protects your organs, it comforted you when you were feeling down, etc.). Tell it thank you for protecting you but that you don't need it anymore, that you need to move forward in your life and journey leaving it behind. Don't hate your fat, realize it served a purpose that is simply no longer needed and move forward.

I also have to share that I have been feeling completely satisfied. I don't feel like I am being deprived and actually, feel like I am caring for myself and giving my body what it truly needs and desires. Wow, this is a powerful and amazing change in mindset for me. All thoughts of negativity are gone...yes, the "Queen of negative self-talk" is dead. A new me has been born! :)

I hope you are all doing well and feeling wonderful. The weather will break soon and we will all have lots of horse time very soon. Take care of yourselves, then you can take care of your horses, your family, and friends. HUGS.

"It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not." ~Author Unknown

Today's ramblings...food for thought

2011-03-02T13:49:00.004-05:00

As horse people, we are faced with a dilemma, other horse people! Yes, that is right, in our field, if you are not the perfect "10" you are likely to be harshly judged by fellow horse lovers and others too as a matter of fact. People (not just horse people) tend to judge others by physical appearance first and everything else later. It is a cruel reality and unfortunately what happens is that wonderful people get overlooked. I can only imagine what people say about me, overweight and doing PNH...OMG...two strikes in some people's eyes. LOL I am not saying that we all should not strive to be fit, but just noting that there is a prejudice. I am very happy with who I am, happily getting my health and fitness back, and proud to be a Parelli student. (Pat Parelli lost 40 pounds by the way...he looked great on RTTH didn't he? What if we dismissed him when he was 40 lbs heavier just because of his looks....wow, we'd miss so much knowledge, miss a caring individual making a difference for horses!)

In any event, the weight and health of horse and rider are equally important. Horses have specific dietary needs that we as humans provide. It is my hope that everyone considers their horse(s) dietary needs and ensures that they are getting the nutrients they need through the best means. (And watching sugar is a big key.) Horses need forage, not processed grains, something that took me years to understand and accept. This winter, with the excellent hay (grown by my friend) and some alfalfa cubes, my horses have done better than ever (and I used to buy all of the supplements and most expensive grain products). I have a long way to go to better understand horse nutrition but, knowing what I know now, and learning more and more about my own health is helping me to start thinking more deeply about their needs. (Yep, another research project.)

A friend said today that overweight people are that way because they simply like unhealthy foods and it got me thinking because I just don't believe it is that simple. I think that people who have become overweight perhaps like unhealthier choices but, I wonder if they really enjoy them, truly. I believe that people are overweight because of several factors that we need to understand. Here are some of my ponderings and are certainly not all of the reasons…

1. Genetics - People are all made up with different body compositions that do not necessarily conform to society’s so-called norm. We are also faced, in my opinion, with predispositions (like allergies) to certain foods which may not put you into anaphylactic shock but, your body may believe it is a toxin and therefore go into protection mode (like people retaining water from wheat consumption to protect the cells). Often, people don’t realize this or understand the implications and continue to consume these foods (and unfortunately, the list of foods in the category have a tendency to be in everything these days—almost everything anyway).

2. Environment - If you live in an environment where unhealthy choices and habits are what you learn, what is done, some people don’t realize that there are issues, some have no say in what happens, and changing behaviors is a difficult process (not always met with support) even when only trying to change what you do for you.

3. Food Supply – Much of what Americans eat today is pumped with hormones, processed and over processed, genetically modified, or otherwise altered out of its natural state (this simply cannot be a good thing).

4. Expense - Unhealthy foods tend to be inexpensive whereas healthier choices carry a higher price tag. But do they really? If you eat healthy foods, you tend to eat much less thank you do of unhealthy foods and the healthy foods you find yourself more satisfied with afterwards. So perhaps, since you’d eat less and be better for it, perhaps the expense factor may be not as disparate as we tend to believe.

5. Availability - Unhealthy foods are easy to find at a moment’s notice whereas finding healthy alternatives takes a lot of fortitude and planning (usually unless you are in a big city), but, it can be done.

6. Addiction - I am a strong believer that sugar, fat, salt, wheat, and processed foods are addictive (and this is not a complete list), just like narcotics, and thus exacerbate the issue. Eat it and you are only satisfied in the moment, you crave more and more and keep eating to find satiation which never comes. This addiction to junk is typically a huge downfall for many.

7. Vicious Cycle - I see a vicious cycle that has happened to me (and others) time and time again. I is something I have to be aware of constantly. If I eat unhealthy choices, they are addictive and thus I crave more, overeat, feel guilt, feel yucky, stop exercising, get fatter, eat more, feel bad, more guilt, etc. It is never-ending unless I disrupt the cycle. This disruption is what everyone needs to do to be successful and get to lifetime goal (and maintain it). Call them trigger foods, call them allergens, call them anything you want but what they are is the one thing that stands in our way to success, set them aside and you are golden. The cravings will vanish, the negativity will vanish, the feelings of despair, gone. What you will be left with is a healthy body and soul.

Video: Common weight loss myths debunked, Ti Caudron, Cambiati Wellness
Article: 10 Common Myths about Weight Loss and Nutrition
By Cambiati" Wellness Programs

I learned something today during the Cambiati coaching session. Ti Caudron said that she recommends people use the 80/20 rule when faced with dining out, parties, and the like. What his means is to focus 80% of your attention on yourself and the other 20% on others (and they will never know it). She said that you need to connect with yourself (with your body), particularly when at an event like this. For instance, when eating, put your fork down between bites. Now, I've heard this before but, not a good reason why particularly or perhaps just not a good explanation. She also said to touch your feet to the floor. So what is this all about? Each task helps you connect with yourself and your body. It causes a pause, a time to take a breath and think before continuing, a time out (that no one will know you are doing), a time to get a good sense of you level of hunger or fullness. She also talked about what to do if you are feeling out of control or need a moment to regroup when at a party or other gathering. She said to take a moment and go look in the mirror, say hello to yourself, reconnect with yourself, ask yourself if you are OK and ask what is going on. This is a moment to be kind to yourself, take care of yourself, and control of the situation. I can see ramifications for this in horsemanship as well. When I am with a horse and need to regroup, we stop, breathe refocus, and move on. It could be a quick break or a few minutes, it really depends on the situation and on-lookers may not even realize that my horse and I are pausing to reconnect (yeah,the beauty of Parelli Natural Horsemanship---that is it OK and desired to reconnect if there is an issue, we take care of one another, partner.)

Anyhow, there was more to the call but these two points really resonated with me. I am sure at some time, WW may have said similar things but, I cannot remember for certain. :) This call today just stuck with me. If you are ever interested, I highly recommend the Cambiati program. I am totally immersed in studying, attending virtual class, and coaching sessions. And, this is the end of day 2 (of 28) for me on their 28-Day Program, total success, totally satisfied, very happy, and feeling awesome!

Article: Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges
Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?
"That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising...."

Weekly Task Challenge: Snow Removal

2011-02-28T11:02:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

The snow is still flying here in Northern New York and it looks like we are all in for a long winter despite the report of an early spring from Punxsutawney Phil. I don't know about you all but I have a ton of snow and removal is a definite issue. Not only is my driveway long (two tenths of a mile if you don't count the two circles), but it is akin to a one lane road, winding through the woods. Rick and I have had to take into consideration snow removal before erecting any new fencing or buildings (a little suprise we got the first year we lived here). There is just not enough places to put this white stuff (I even have to dismantle the round pen for snow and manure removal). Anyhow, you'd have to be here to totally understand. Suffice it to say, it is not always as easy as one may think.

This week's task is to think about snow removal at your place (or while you are planning your dream farm). What do you do now, what issues have arisen, what could you do better? Make a plan and share it with us in the comments section!

Here are some resources for you reading pleasure:

Easy-Does-It Snow Removal

Snow Removal Tips from WVU

Snow Removal from Wikipedia

PlowSite: The Snow & Ice Industry’s Largest & Original Online Community

Road to the Horse--Winner Chris Cox

2011-02-27T18:31:00.006-05:00

The 2011 Road to the Horse Colt Starting Championship is over and the winner is... (third time in a row), Chris Cox. I didn't get to watch it but am hopeful for a dvd to purchase with the footage. I saw clips on Facebook of Pat with his colt and saw true horsemanship. Congrats to Chris for winning and to all three clinicians (Chris Cox, Pat Parelli, and Clinton Anderson) for making the world a better place for horses. Pat--I am a die hard for you and truly honored to be a Parelli student. I wish you'd have won but in the end, it is not about the blue ribbon, but about the relationship. Great job to all!

(By the way, Pat is bringing the horse home. *grins*)

From Pat Parelli - Fan Page on Facebook:
"A note from Theresa (for Pat): Partner (the colt) was very unconfident on his right side:bracing and bucking. Pat rode Partner in a hack in the 3rd rd comp today at a canter in both leads with rhythm and relaxation with NO bucking. Pat bounced the green ball to the top of Pat’s head on that right side: Partner was relaxed and interested. There wasn't a dry eye amongst our team. Pat exhibited a great deal of lightness!"

The Power of Visualization

2011-02-27T15:01:00.003-05:00

As I sit here planning for my week, I am listening to a Cambiati coaching session with my laptop and headphones, trying to remain quiet, and keep 5 dogs quiet. Rick has been working overnights and is sleeping. We don't have a bedroom where you can shut a door in our home. We have loft - think log home - we love it this way but it can be complicated. Anyhow, Ti Caudron and her guests are talking about visualization on this session, as a tool to success, particularly to health and life.

This session started my mind remembering how visualization has been such an important tool for success already in my life and that I should be conscious to incorporate it. For me, it is important in all situations and I've used it for job interviews, in preparation for meetings, and even for social events where I had to network. I have used it in my horsemanship, in planning a vacation, and even while on Weight Watchers.

So it has worked and if I want success in my journey to better health, it is a tool I must reincorporate, especially when faced with difficult decisions, situations, and any loss of motivation. I really believe that completing a successful 28 day cleanse/detox as well as getting to my lifetime weight goal are both hinged on using many tools but very importantly, visualization.

It only naturally follows then, that visualization for horsemanship is very important too! I have often visualized things I want to be doing with my horses but sometimes, have found that I never get to the point of doing what I am thinking about (usually because we have to play with the horse that shows up and I always keep my principles before goals). However, when I have done these things, these goals that I've visualized, I've noticed better relaxation, better partnership, and more fun in all of my horse-human interactions.

This year, as I get back to active horsemanship, and gearing up for Level 3 assessment, I plan to use visualization as one of many tools for success. (I also am using it on my journey to better health---of course). On the coaching session, she recommended to choose three words to anchor yourself and to represent the experience you want to have (how you want to feel, the choices you want to make, and who you want to be). Use these words not only during visualization but when you are in the situation you have prepared for. This is a great and easy idea to incorporate. Below are some visualization resources (also known as mental rehearsing) and ideas for you to try out!

Resources:

The Revolution in Horsemanship: And What It Means to Mankind

Weight Watchers Tools For Living Companion : 8 Ways to Get What You Want

Creative Visualization: From Imagination To Reality - Attracting Success With Mind Power

ZenChill Power Tools

Mental Rehearsing Handout

Installing a new habit and breaking an old one by Dr. Stephanie A. Burns

Visualization - imprinting patterns of success

Weight Watchers Tools For Living

Mental Rehearsal - Can You Ingrain a Skill by Thinking about It?

Sound Asleep

2011-02-25T21:57:00.006-05:00

I went out to the barn to feed the horses and Lola was laying in the barn. I thought, hey, let's see if she will stay put when I go in to see her, she did. I was petting her face and delighted that she as not nervous to get up (we did this one other time outside). But this morning, she was breathing heavily and after a bit, I thought it was strange that she didn't get up. I checked and the blanket didn't trap her legs, the horses had hay and plenty of water so I assumed it was not colic (or unlikely anyway). However, when trying to get her up, I had to rock her and kept telling her to move, to get up, and it took several minutes to get her to stir and rise. Well, she got up, started yawning and stretching, walked outside, and stood there. Fosse and Whiskey were hanging around and Fosse was licking me, Lola was just standing, watching. Then, I fed more hay (outside) and viola, she walked over and ate. I guess she was sound asleep, in a very deep state of relaxation, with her eyes open! Whew--scared me to death--I knew I loved her but realized today just how much because I was terribly worried, sad, and terrified for her, and the thought of losing her was devastating. I was also thankful that I'd just gotten paid should the vet need to come and save her. Horses...they just steal your heart don't they?

Weekly Task Challenge:

2011-02-23T23:52:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

When is the last time you've done some horse-related reading? Have you read things you'd suggest to others? Reading about our passion whether it is fiction or non-fiction, whether it be a book or journal article, perhaps a blog, is really important to keep our minds engaged and current with our passion.

This week's challenge is to create two lists. The first, a list of things you've read that you'd consider must-reads. Share this list here on the blog using the comments section or with your horse friends. The second list is one of new things you want to read (feel free to share this too). Each list should contain at least 5 items! Have fun and be creative!

Needing a Fresh Start - WW Journey Update - Process, Planning, and Progress

2011-02-22T19:58:00.012-05:00

I am trying very hard to remember that my horse journey and my journey to better health are connected and equally important. To have a solid partnership, both horse and human need to have mental, emotional, and physical fitness. My horses are doing their part (usually) and so, I keep striving to do mine. Pondering...if WW is a lifetime commitment and lifestyle, what is it that makes it not always liveable? Why are bad habits so difficult to discard and why doesn't the WW lifestyle allow for easily giving them up? Maybe it is not just a habitual issue solely. I do think that fat, sugar, and salt (and especially together--or other trigger foods like wheat) are akin to drugs, are addictive, and if you stop eating them you are okay. The second you allow them back into your diet, it is like a drug addict given a hit and thus fix of their drug of choice. It is hard to put down, the more you eat it the more you want it and the more it is on your mind, the more you fall out of good habits and into the oblivion that got you to the point of needing intervention in the first place....hmmmmm....more pondering.

My lowest weight (not in my life but while on this journey since Jan 2010) was 195.2lbs in December 2010 which meant I made it to Onderland and was also past 25% weight lost, past the mid-point of my entire journey too. I was on top of the world. The holidays came and went (some good days, some bad). As of my last weigh-in however, (February 12th, 2011--I skipped my February 19th meeting--not a good idea by the way) I was 206.6 lbs meaning no more 25% lost, no more Onderland, and not past the mid-point of my journey. I find this to be very difficult to deal with as we are now approaching March 2011. I realize that it is in my control and my fault but, that does not make it easier. It is what I am eating and not exercise particularly as I workout more than most people even on my worst weeks. On my good weeks, I workout twice a day, on my bad weeks, usually once a day at least 5 days a week. I am now at 56 lbs lost, 76.6 lbs to get to goal (130 lbs) ... daunting to say the least!

I've reached a place in my WW journey where I am falling back into old bad habits that include the mass consumption of sugar, fat, and salt, not getting in all of my workouts (I actually love to workout all of the time), and feeling kind of overwhelmed and unable to focus. I suspect part of this is emotionally motivated from stress related to the winter weather (and no horse play time--very depressing and no walking or running with my dogs), a heavy work load at the University, and an off-kilter schedule with my husband (I miss him as he is snow plowing almost all of the time on 12 hours shifts). I am feeling pure desperation, feel yucky from eating junk, feeling terribly guilty, feeling like a failure, and really need a clean start. This journey is an integral part of my horsemanship and I cannot give up. I am worth it and so are my horses and my horsemanship!

I've decided to stay on WW (of course) but, to get a clean start, I am going to go through a 28 day cleanse/detox program as well. It is a way for me to "kick" the bad food habits and get back to feeling good again. Just like with our horses, people are what they eat and what is consumed directly effects performance.

A Facebook friend of mine, Heike King is an Arbonne Consultant and she is going to get me hooked up on the Cambiati 28 Day Detox/Cleanse program with both Cambiati and Arbonne products. Some of the key concepts with the program are:

--Identify how nutrition affects your physical, mental and emotional health;
--Use food as fuel;
--Identify food allergies and intolerances;
--Identify and correct imbalances that contribute to a lack of energy, inability to lose weight, and missing competitive edge;
--Identify and eliminate compulsive eating habits; and
--Create a path for wellness for the rest of your life.

These are concepts that I am always thinking about and they should fit well with the WW lifestyle . A detox/cleansing restart may be just what I need. The other benefit is that they tell me what to do for the next month (there is a class which I like too--education is really important to me), no thinking needed on my part (lol), just follow the plan (as far as I know--I am still getting info). (BTW--Other online WW folks I know did it and referred me to her back in July 2010 (I was not ready to try it them) and continue to use these products in their daily regimen with not only weight loss success but, they feel overall really well balanced and healthy.)

I was in denial for years about gaining weight and now, regretting not getting at it when I gained just 5 pounds...geeze could I have waited any longer!? Now, I am working on losing 132.6 lbs...can you imagine? UGH, disgusting really, simply horrific (but when I get there, the horses will be pleased and so will I for so many reasons).

I was never the fat kid but, college, marriage, lack of knowledge, and complacency got the best of me. I don't think that I ever realized I would/could get fat and as it happened, I kept thinking it would just go away or something. It truly snuck up on me. Now at age 39, my plan is to get to goal by my 40th (this Dec 4th) and stay there. I want to live a long, athletic and healthy life with Rick and the critters and I have to lose weight to do so. (OMG I am heading to age 40--frightening, I feel like I am 18 most of the time--especially when I am riding around bareback on Fosse, Whiskey, or Lola, acting like a fool!--thanks Parelli for the ability to do so!)

Sometimes, I just want a magical do-over and be my younger healthier, thinner self. It is tiring to constantly have to think about this stuff. I try to bargain for it stating to the Universe that if given another chance, I'd be diligent and careful and not allow myself to get where I am now. However, reality is that kind of magic does not exist and as Pat Parelli says, "Take the time it takes and it takes less time." What I take from this quote in this context is that I have to just get back at it, do what it takes, and I'll get there!

So there you have it, that is my update!

Weekly Task Challenge: Music Time ♪♫♪♫♪♫

2011-02-16T10:55:00.005-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

So I've been rockin' out to music at my desk (mostly to music I've heard at Zumba class) and decided that there may just be a weekly task in it! So, this week's challenge is to start compiling music that you'd like to listen to while playing with your horse! When doing so, be thinking of how your energy changes to each of the songs, be aware of your body moving while listening to certain songs, and decide what tasks you might pair up with what songs! You'll find that you and your horse will develop a rhythm together, a cadence, and you'll be dancing! So, have fun putting together your play list and go spend time with your horse. And, if you have any suggestions, please post them here in the comments section!

Horsey Love ♥

2011-02-13T14:22:00.004-05:00

I just got back in from a little horse time with Fosse, Whiskey, and Lola. It was just grooming and snuggling (at liberty) but, it was wonderful. They are just so cuddly when I am out there with them. They could be doing anything else but choose to be with me. I am hoping for some warmer days as I need to trim hooves and would love to do some spring cleaning in the barn too. I've got quite a bit of tack to go through and sell (stuff I just never use) and some organization to do (I cannot wait for Rick to get his building and get all of the non-horse stuff out! LOL)

Anyhow, today's experience leaves me thinking that it truly speaks volumes about our relationship. Despite having months off from so-called "official" horse time, they don't hold a grudge, they want to be with me, and they make me feel fabulous. I've been feeling terribly guilty lately, about not spending time with them because of the weather, and today, they made me feel better. I love that about horses. I suspect that all the time I spend with them (when I am not whining about the cold, ice, and snow) is quality and thus, the quantity is not always the most important. Our foundation is strong, our communication is strong, and thus, our relationship is strong. ♥

The point of this short post is that any time you spend with your horse is valuable and adds to the foundation of your relationship. That even if you only can spend five minutes, it is worth it. Don't worry friends, winter is almost over (I think) and we will be back at is 100%! I truly look forward to making progress not only on the property but with my assessments this year. I need to get back at it for sure!

So, stay warm, be savvy, and love your horse. As Pat Parelli says, "Put your heart in your hand and touch your horse with your heart."

Weekly Task Challenge: Egg and Spoon!

2011-02-09T22:38:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Since we had fun with a silly task two weeks ago, let's try another. Remember egg and spoon? The rider rides the horse with a spoon in hand that has an egg balancing on it! I recommend using a regular, metal spoon, not a plastic one.

This week's challenge is to get together with a fellow horse buddy and play egg & spoon in the snow (bareback if you dare)! Play with a dozen eggs (please buy cagefree eggs --poor chickies). Try the game at all gaits and in all depths of snow! If you dare, use obstacles and jumps too (being mindful of ice). Each time you lose, you give your friend a dollar! Remember, you will need a dollar for every egg used in the game. If you are in the lonely barn (like me), put the buck in a jar and your horse gets it each time you lose, towards some yummy treats! Have fun, be safe, and as always, be savvy!

Weekly Task Challenge: Emergency Preparedness

2011-02-01T20:30:00.005-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Since the weather all of the world seems to be extreme in these last several weeks, it seemed only appropriate to have a weekly task that addresses emergency preparedness and horses! This week, review the links below, find additional resources, an evaluate your level of preparedness. Feel free to post here as a comment and share!

American Association of Equine Practitioners (AAEP) Emergency and Disaster Preparedness
A comprehensive index of emergency resources for horse owners and practitioners.

About.com Emergency Planning for Horse and Pony Owners
An article and guide to resources for disaster planning for families with pets.

NetPosse.com Stolen Horse International Inc. Disaster Planning Pays Off
And article including suggestions for emergency planning.

Non-Scale Victories

2011-01-30T22:16:00.003-05:00

Well, as strange as it may seem, sometimes a victory comes in the form of something other than what the scale is telling you! I've had two this weekend despite a rough week last week full of bad decisions made for a variety of reasons.

The first victory is the fact that my barn coat and pants, the ones for the really cold days, are so huge that I had to buy a new coat! I also acquired a new regular winter coat for the same reason.(See photo above.) It was important to buy the new clothing not only for looks but, safety. It is not safe to be in baggy clothing with your horses, especially when riding.

The second was the realization that despite the ups and downs of the scale, I am doing okay and will get to my lifetime goal, this year. It is a journey, a life-long proposition, not a diet! :) And so far, it is going well. I am truly taking the time it takes to do it right.

I posted the following on my Weight Watchers Facebook groups page and wanted to share it with the rest of you, and especially those of you working on similar goals (whether they be horse,health, or other goals). It is easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk, not matter how hard we are trying and that can be detrimental. In any event, here is what I discovered today:

In natural horsemanship, the ideal partnership is where both horse and human have mental, physical, and emotional fitness. When I started WW last January, this is what I had in mind, and that it was important that I found this balance in my life as I was expecting my horses to have it. Darcy is right, negativity towards oneself is not productive and I am the first to typically violate this principle. How interesting that I think of it as a principle now because another tenant in my life (and especially with my relationship with my horses) is to always put my principles before my goals. That is precisely what I need to do for my WW journey which is also, and most truly, a balance of mental, physical, and emotional fitness. Epiphany!

This post had meaning not only for me but, my WW friends. Isn't it remarkable how Parelli is in all aspects of our lives (even in the loves of non-horse people? Awesome. By the way, the horses are doing great. We have had some impromptu play time out in the snow on the warmer days and lots of goodies, scratches, and non-demanding time. That said, I really cannot wait for SPRING!! :)

Weekly Task Challenge: Ride a Buck!

2011-01-26T22:28:00.002-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Do you remember, "Ride a Buck" when you were a kid? If this is not familiar, it is often done at horse shows for kids. The idea is to ride bareback with a dollar bill under your leg. The task is to ride and not drop the dollar!

This week's challenge is to get together with a fellow horse buddy and play ride a buck in the snow! play with $10 minimum to make it mean something. Try the game at all gaits and in all depths of snow! If you dare, use obstacles and jumps too (being mindful of ice). Each time you lose, you give your friend the buck! If you are in the lonely barn (like me), put the buck in a jar and your horse gets it each time you lose, towards some yummy treats! Have fun, be safe, and as always, be savvy!

Weekly Task Challenge: Winter Clothing

2011-01-19T21:09:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Since it is so darned cold out, and many of us are reluctant to go outside and play with our horses, it occurred to me that perhaps we needed to review our own winter apparel! This week's task is to review what you have, what you are wearing, and search for some new, warmer duds! Share on here using the comments, what great, warm finds you've made. Then, make a plan to go out and play, the new, warmer you. :)

We are FREEZING not playing :(

2011-01-16T16:24:00.002-05:00

Image from: http://weather.thefuntimesguide.com/2009/02/snow_sculpture.php

The horses are blanketed and I am in the house, again. It is freezing here and going down to -15 degrees Fahrenheit tonight. I know, I am originally from the north but perhaps living down south for several years did something to me as I am less and less inclined to venture outside. BRRRR. The horses are not shivering but also not overly amused with my absence...I miss them too.

So, what better to do but spend my time planning on projects for the impending spring. Rick (I mean Santa) purchased a 14' x 36' high-wall building which means all of the tools, equipment, and anything non-horsey will be leaving the barn and I will get to expand into the entire barn space (25.5' x 44')!!! Can you tell I am happy? Well so is he really. We are both simply thrilled.

I still really want to build an indoor arena but, now, I have even bigger (probably unrealistic) desires. If I could do anything, I'd build an indoor arena that also included a heated lounge, kitchen, bathroom, gym, and dance room. My idea is that I could offer fitness and fun for both horse and rider in a natural, welcoming environment. What do you think? Anyone interested in sponsoring this adventure? *wink wink* (I actually know of someone who somehow got a benefactor and is building a wonderful facility, a friend of my aunt's, how lucky is that?!)

In a more realistic move, Rick and I are thinking that putting in a proper outdoor, all-weather arena is possible and, getting the round pen panels this year are doable. We also have some fencing to install on the property line near our closest neighbors...that will be "fun." One step at a time!

Stay warm and always be savvy!

Weekly Task Challenge: Winter Patterns

2011-01-12T18:39:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Since horses love patterns and it is snowy out, this week, bundle up and try something new and different! I challenge you to play with your horse (while riding or on the ground) creating patterns that are shapes of wintertime objects and other fun things you can think of! Why not walk or trot a snowman pattern, star, tree, or any other shape...a heart perhaps-Valentine's Day is coming! Have fun and think outside the box...or draw one in the snow with your horse! :)

Impromptu Horse Play - The Best!

2011-01-09T17:02:00.003-05:00

Image from: http://www.rainbowuniverse.org

I have to say that the most fun I had today was the impromptu liberty session, in the blowing snow, with my three horses, initiated by Fosse, and ending with horse kisses and peppermint candies for all! ♥ It is amazing how a simple gesture or look is easily understood now. The opportunities that can happen if we just pay attention, if we just give up a few moments in our busy lives, the things we miss if we don't.

My business at the barn today was to haul water, clean the barn, and feed. The horses hung out with me throughout the time I was working when they certainly could have been elsewhere. When I was finished, I walked outside to retrieve feed pans. I tossed them over the fence and there was Fosse. Not looking for a handout but, for me to play. He and I do some intense playtime that includes running and rearing, backing, approach and retreat,basically the works (and no food incentives). He also initiates kisses and over to lock my face. I just adore him! And, of course, Lola and Whiskey were with us, they'd play a bit and they'd respond but overall I think they were looking for handouts (for which I had none). Fosse's play drive is different form theirs--which is fine. He and I just happen to share the same, high level of energy! The four of us played and had fun together despite the snow blowing and the temperature in the twenties.

I recall the old days, before Parelli, and I cannot imagine ever knowing that a horse could play or be so engaged with me. I truly believe that in the old days of "normal" horsemanship, I just looked at the horses as cute creatures that I could ride around. Now, I see so much more and understand how important the relationship I have with my horses is. I understand why and how they are way more than riding and am thankful for this knowledge. The time spent is so rewarding and the value of our interactions, priceless. Thanks Pat and Linda!

It's about never giving up...

2011-01-08T17:32:00.001-05:00

Whether is is learning a new language (I am learning French by the way), assessing with your horse, running a marathon, trying to lose weight, or doing something else that is important to you, as Winston Churchill said, "Never, Never, Never Give Up!" No matter what, I implore you to keep at it even if you have feelings of failure, sorrow, and guilt. This post is about me not giving up my goal to be healthy and fit not only for myself, but more importantly, for my horses. I share my ups and downs, my intimate and personal triumphs and failures, in the hopes that it will help someone else out there.

I was very happy to be at a Weight Watchers meeting this morning, to see you all of my WW friends, and hear the day's lesson. It is not that the content is new particularily or that there will be an epifanie or anything, it is just that being with like-minded people in a supportive environment helps me (sounds liek the Parelli environment doesn't it?).

I need weekly meetings, for life, to stay on track and we have not had a meeting for weeks, through the holidays (probably the most difficult time of year). Next year, I plan to check in with the Canadian WW Center in Cornwall, Ontario to see if they hold meetings without a break and go there rather than no meetings. Although I am an online member, for whatever reason, I need the additional accountability of an on-person meeting.

So, anyway, despite a SIGNIFICANT holiday gain, I am back at it today, 100% on plan (eating well and exercising like a maniac) and feeling great. In the past, I'd have given up, out of shame avoided the meeting, and well, gained all the weight back. But today, I was brave and determined to take control back! I did well for most of the holiday break but then had a few bad days, and ended with a horrible week that started with indiscriminate eating on New Year's Eve - rookie mistake--and I knew better. I've eaten way too many carbs (mainly refined sugar and wheat stuff both of which make me feel horrible and retain water). I know bad, bad, bad but, all well, it is over! Before going to the meeting, I mentally prepared to cope with the visit to the scale. I didn't cry or get upset, but, laughed--strange reaction. (You can see the stats, look to your left.)

I am not giving up. I will be at my lifetime goal this year. I have a huge bunch of people who say I've inspired them and I cannot let them or myself down. But, I also have to recognize that this is part of the journey just not the fun part! Perhaps this experience can be viewed as a test as to whether I would totally give up (like in the past) or move on. I'm dusting myself off from my fall and tumble down a huge, rocky, mountain, and climbing back up, one step at a time. I am fighting feelings of failure and gearing up for living the lifestyle I love so much...WW. By the way, I never stopped exercising so at least I was still doing something right.

Based on a blog post Petra Christensen made recently at Parelli Central about New Year's resolutions and worksheets by Kathy Pike, a Skills Coach and horsewoman, I did the following exercise as a way to push through this difficult time. (Thanks, Petra and Kathy!)

RELEASING
I release myself from feelings of guilty, self-hatred, loathing, and disappointment. I release myself from thinking about past mistakes, over and over again. I release myself from the prison of perfectionism.

RENEWING
I renew my commitment to myself to eat healthy foods. I renew my vision of hope and reaching lifetime goal this year. I renew my belief that I am worth it and that I can achieve success. I renew my power to exercise and have fun doing it.

RECLAIMING
I am reclaiming my health and my life. I am reclaiming my power over my choices. I am reclaiming love for myself. I reclaim victory!

So, here's to lifetime butterflies in 2011! ƸӜƷ (Lifetime members get butterfly stickers at WW.) Oh, and for my WW buddies who read my blog, I plan to be the biggest loser this coming week (instead of the biggest pathetic loser like I was this morning, lol) - catch me if you can WW friends! :) HUGS.

Weekly Task Challenge: Grooming (or should we say Friendly Game?)

2011-01-05T22:25:00.003-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

When you groom your horse, do you ask permission first? Often times, we grab our grooming tools, halter the horse, and get the job done. This week's task is to groom the savvy way! The rules of the game are to ask your horse's permission to approach (whether in a stall or outside), halter politely and with savvy allowing the horse to halter himself by placing his nose in the halter (don't forget flexion), then, before grooming, show your horse each tool, let him sniff, bite, lick, or do whatever he wants to it, then use approach and retreat to groom. Pay attention to your horse's reaction, are there tricky areas? This awareness and polite behavior on your part will endear your horse to you. grooming should be about friendly and love, not just a simple task (or job).

Weekly Task Challenge: Reflection Time

2010-12-29T17:22:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

As we close out the year, it is time to reflect on how our year went. This week's task is to think about your horse journey. Did you accomplish everything you had hoped? If not, what obstacles did you face and hos might you meet these challenges in the new year? Make a list, check it twice, and plan for a successful and productive 2011!

New Years Resolutions - Should Be VERY Important to Make Them Actually Happen!

2010-12-26T09:24:00.014-05:00

It is that time of year, the time we make resolutions to behave better, to save money, to spend more time with family, friends, and our horses. This year, I challenge you to make a resolution that will actually mean something to you, something you know why it should be done, and something that you will actually follow-through on.

Last year, my resolution was to become healthy again and I am well on the way! So this year, it is to get to my weight loss goal and complete my level Parelli 3 studies!

For those of you new to the blog, I decided to post my long story about my health, my horsemanship, and why I decided to do something. The big two whys are because it was necessary if I wanted to live and the second was if I wanted to live and enjoy my horses in such a way that I felt proud of my accomplishments and not guilty that I could be hurting or annoying them because I was too heavy (a constant thing that weighed heavily on my mind). My horsemanship goals are to get through all of the Parelli levels and someday, if I can find the funds, to become a Parelli Professional (in addition to my career as an Academic Director of Libraries--not giving up my career, no way).

I was never heavy, not as a kid, as a teen, or even in my early twenties. I was the intelligent, blond-haired, blue-eyed, girl with a 4.0 gpa, horses, her own car, boyfriends, etc. But, college, marriage, working, and eating on the run, living more sedentary than ever before, not realizing that I had to work at staying active, I just kept packing on the pounds but, was in total denial (and at the time, didn't realize it). It took several years to happen but, about 10 or 11 years ago, a colleague asked me to go to Weight Watchers (and wanted to pay my way) and I found myself insulted and then horrified that "my secret" was out, that my clothes were not hiding anything (crazy, I know). So, I did go to WW with her (and was thankful) and needed to lose at least 100 pounds to get to 150lbs (in my weight range at the higher end--I'm 5'6"--I was devastated but, motivated to do it--and at a loss for why I ever let it happen in the first place--the guilt haunts me to this day--when did I get fat--why did I let it happen?

So, I lost 50 pounds, looked good but plateaued at around 200 lbs and became frustrated and was not sure hot to handle it. I went to a work conference out of town and out to dinner with colleagues to a place where healthy anything was not on the menu. I ate, enjoyed, and started sliding off track ever since. My colleague stopped attending WW, then I did...long story short, fast forward to early 2009 and I was well over 250 reaching an all time high of 262.6lbs (ouch, that still hurts to admit but is important to acknowledge--the truth will set you free).

In 2009, I had two incidences that I attributed to major food poisoning but, they ended up being very serious gall bladder attacks (when they happened, I thought I was going to die, I could not breath and the later of the two, I thought I was having a heart attack--yet I never called 911--didn't want to bother anyone you know, lol). It took my husband's insistence to get me to the doctor's for a check-up (he saved my life). I'd find out later, these were indeed life threatening attacks due to a huge, 3.3cm stone rolling about inside me. In any event, that May, I had to have surgery to remove the stone and gall bladder. Prior to it, I was eating nothing but animal crackers out of fear of another attack that my doctor said, could kill me. (I did lose about 20 pounds through this.) I bargained, I was in denial, I felt guilt, and I was scared, no, terrified (thank goodness I have Rick in my life). At the hospital, I sobbed and was frightened to death, I wanted to run, flee, hide, anything...and when I went under anesthesia, I thought they (the health care professionals) were trying to kill me--I've never felt fear like this.

As I was waiting for the operation date to arrive, it occurred to me that I'd been showing symptoms for years but just attributed them to over indulgence, rich foods, and the like--and thought it was all normal. After the operation, I was unable to ride my horses or do much for months as I had to heal. I was devastated. Not only was I fat, my abdomen sagged from the operation and looked worse than ever. I missed my horse time, I wanted to play and ride! I also had to watch everything I ate to the extreme (post surgery), as just about anything, especially with a drop of fat, would set me off and make me very, very ill. Eating healthy was not difficult because not doing it made me want to die but again, it was scary. Everytime I put something in my mouth I worried about what would happen.

Fast forward to the fall holiday season 2009, and my family visiting. I fell back into many old habits, eating all kinds of junk, and was sick every day they were visiting (they didn't know-I suffered in silence) and gained the twenty pounds back quickly. Once they left and the holiday binges (typical of my family) were over, I told Rick (my husband) that I could not do it any more, that living as a glutton was not working for me, that I hated my appearance, hated feeling sick, and hated feeling embarrassed around horse people because of my physique and that I was going to seek out a Weight Watchers group (or do online) because I knew that my health and well being depended on it. (I also knew that restricting refind sugars, wheat, processed foods, and other triggers would be important.) I knew that I needed to take care of myself not only to live a long life but, if I wanted to enjoy the horses. Here I was, wonderful marriage, beautiful property, building a horse play ground and little farm, awesome career, and I could not enjoy them like I had in my younger years, not really, I had this looming fear of failure becuase of my health and it had to stop. The months of not being able to do much with the horses, and looking at photos of me with them, made me feel horrible. I used to be the girl who'd fling her leg over any horse and ride like the wind, mane in hand (tack, what tack), the photos showed something quite different and quite sad, I was lost in my own body and mind.

So, on January 9th, 2010, I joined Weight Watchers and by March 2010, joined the gym and started exercising regularly again. By May, I learned how to run (jog) on a treadmill and on the road, with my Great Dane, Morgan, I started doing my exercise videos and buying more to keep things interesting, and in September, learned about Zumba and became obsessed with it! And the rest, is history...one where my mind is clear and focused, where I am learning to love myself again, and one where I am feeling healthy again.

The photo above is the new me. A new look for a transforming girl!

I am still attending Weight Watchers and plan on doing so, for life, even when I am at my goal. I exercise about a million different ways, and love it. I eat healthy, cook all kinds of delicious, nutritious foods (with mostly homegrown ingredients), and am feeling like my old self again--perhaps even better really because I am becoming thin again but, a healthy, athletic person, not just a thin shell (there is a huge difference). I am strong and feel alive again! I've lost 67.4lbs to date and would like to lose a great deal more to get down to 130lbs (which is in my healthy weight range at the lower end - healthy range is 124-155lbs). I am in the 100's again, weighing in at 195.2lbs as of Saturday, December 18th, 2010.

My next Weight Watchers meeting isn't until January 8th, 2011. So, as you can imagine, getting through the holidays will take focus and planning, and so far, I am doing well. I am an online WW member do I can keep in touch with the materials that way as well. I also attended the last Thursday night meeting on December 23rd to get an extra boost of motivation and support. Although only a handful of people came, we all felt good for doing so.

In any event, if I can do it, anyone can. It is all about taking the time it takes to focus on "YOU" for a change, understanding that a healthy you means a great deal for those around you, including your horses, and that you are worth it.

A few key tips I think that have helped me thus far, besides knowing it was important to do is: menu planning, exercise every day, journaling everything (food, feelings, plans), support, eating whole-foods and steering clear of processed junk, keeping it fun & creative, and realistic goal setting, and remembering how you got heavy and why you want to be thin and healthy again (think horses--one of the best motivators). I am sure there is more but, at the moment, this is what I am thinking.

Best wishes to a healthier you in the new year my friends! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help! email: arabhorselover1@yahoo.com

Wishing You A Happy Holiday Season!

2010-12-24T07:45:00.004-05:00

Happy Holidays from the Young Family
at Hidden Meadows Natural Horsemanship!
May your holidays be full of prosperity, love, joy, and above all, happiness.

Weekly Task Challenge: Healthy Holidays

2010-12-22T07:41:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

With the holiday season upon us, this week's challenge is to have a healthy holiday! Make sure that what you are feeding your horse is the best you can do, watch those carbs, check the fat, supplement if you need to. And, for you, plan on eating healthy this year, there is no reason to over indulge. Try to work in some exercise for both of you, and above all, enjoy each other's company. Take the time you can and be with your horse, the stress relief of being with our equine partners alone is a huge health benefit! Be safe, be merry, be healthy, you can do it!!!

25% Target Reached!

2010-12-18T23:45:00.004-05:00

Just a very quick post to let you all know I met my 25% weight loss target today (I actually exceeded it)! I have plans for the next few weeks to stay on track through the holidays by planning, journaling, and exersising. My next WW meeting isn't until Jan 8th so, this will be interesting...Wish me luck!

Next goal: 30% target (78 pounds total loss--or close) by Jan 8th.

P.S. The horses are doing great! I've been super busy at work but, try to do quick, 10 minute exercises with them when I feed...I have time off starting Christmas Eve and hope to get in some sustained horse time...I cannot wait for Spring...it is COLD! :)

Exercise Keeps the Universe in Balance

2010-12-16T15:23:00.008-05:00

I'll tell ya, if you don't exercise please consider giving it a try. There are so many ways to become active! I find that exercise truly impacts my emotional and mental wellness not to mention my physical wellness. I woke up this morning kind of cranky, tired, and felt fairly out of sorts. Just 15 minutes into my 60 minute Zumba class this morning, I felt so much better, I felt wonderful, happy, and everything was just right in the Universe again. (Which could be why I put in 45 more minutes in on the elliptical and treadmill before leaving the gym). Tonight's exercise plan is to do a Leslie Sansone 5 mile workout and then try her Yoga DVD--I've never done yoga.

In any event, this feeling of exercise-induced euphoria (which I get every time I exercise) got me thinking about my horses and how they act and feel when they are regularly played with and exercised. Have you ever noticed how your horse is more able to focus on you and the tasks at hand when you're regularly playing with him? Perhaps it is because he is more mentally engaged because he is moving and exercising, and engaging his body and brain, getting the juices flowing! The body (horse or human) was meant to be in motion!

The issue becomes, especially now during the winter months, what to do when the weather and your facilities don't create the perfect place to have fun with your horse yet, you know you should be moving and shaking! Well, be creative. If you cannot ride your horse (let's say because of the footing), then hand walk with your horse (much like walking the dog), play the games with obstacles, and you can do more than just everything at a walk LOL. You both can get in a good workout with the benefit of a fabulous partner to do it with---now how cool is that?!

The point is, move yourself, move your horse, and just have fun! Before you know it, you'll be feeling great, gaining muscle, and if you are really good, losing those extra pounds. Just remember, to truly make activity in your life have an impact, you must go above and beyond the norm, the same applies to your horse. Simply "being" in not enough, make your time on Earth matter. What you do impacts everything, and to me, exercise keeps the Universe I live in, balanced. :) Be positive and progressive, take action find your creativity and share it with your horse!

♫♫♫ I Like To Move It Move It ♫♫♫
♫♫♫ I Like To Move It Move It ♫♫♫
♫♫♫ I Like To Move It Move It ♫♫♫
♫♫♫ Ya Like To (MOVE IT!) ♫♫♫

Petra's Picks on Parelli Central

2010-12-15T20:12:00.004-05:00

Image is Petra, acquired from:http://central.parellinaturalhorsetraining.com/instructors/

Today, I am honored to report that Petra Christensen chose to highlight my blog on Petra's Picks at Parelli Central! Petra is a regular reader and of course, works for Parelli. She is a two-star Parelli Instructor following her dream to become a Parelli Professional (I am so jealous and proud of her!) Check out her site at http://www.petrachristensen.com/ To read her post click here. Petra writes great blog posts on Parelli Central and regularily makes insightful comments here at Natural Horse Lover. Thanks again, Petra--you make me blush!

Weekly Task Challenge: What if...

2010-12-14T21:35:00.004-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

I've heard about so many horses injured lately that it occurred to me that planning in case of an emergency would be a good idea. So, this week's challenge is to plan for the "what ifs" in your horse's life.

What if your horses needed stall rest, could you provide it? What if your horse needed hydrotherapy, could you do it--would he let you? What if your horse needed emergency care, could you get a veterinarian out to your farm in time? What if you needed to provide first-aid, do you know what to do and do you have the tools to do it?

Think long and hard and write a list of what ifs with solutions! If you cannot figure out a solution to a "what if" or wnat to pose one to others, post here using the comments feature!

Celebrating Onderland--I made it!

2010-12-11T18:38:00.001-05:00

Just a brief post to let you all know that I finally made it to ONDERLAND! Yes, onderland, another place in Wonderland I suspect.

As you can see, my journey to fitness is going very well, especially with the new WW program and I am feeling awesome. I can only imagine the wonderful pay-back with regards to my horsemanship. I cannot remember when I was here maybe 15 years ago? It's been a long time coming and I am not looking back!

My next mini goal is to hit my 25% weight loss target (which should be this coming week). Then, I'll strive for my 30% weight loss target by the end of January. I can actually see the end on the tunnel on this important but difficult, journey. I know the horses appreciate my efforts. I am more athletic all of the time, I'll live longer, and since physical fitness affects mental and emotional fitness as well, I am more and more in-tune with myself and the horses, and truly, my life in general. I am just SO HAPPY!

If you are struggling with your health, don't wait, please do something now, you and your horsemanship (and your horses) are worth the effort it takes, and you only live once, make it a good, long life! I'll even be your cheerleader, just let me know what I can do to support you!

Remember, as Pat Parelli teaches us: Fitness for Partnership--Both horse and human should have these to achieve true partnership: Mental Fitness, Emotional Fitness, and Physical Fitness.

Weekly Task Challenge: Ice - What are you doing to cope?

2010-12-08T06:50:00.002-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Winter storms abound these days and ice is definitely an issue. This week's task is to share here, on the blog using the comments section of this post to share how you deal with ice and your horses! Tell us about what you do for your other pets too. We need to work as a group and solve this dangerous issue, ICE!

Life Is Simply Too Short...Find Joy

2010-12-06T12:14:00.004-05:00

So, the day after Thanksgiving, I found myself responding to a family emergency that took me away from home, away from my husband, away from my horses, dogs, and kitty, away from my normal life, away from work, downstate, to support my family. I won't get into details to maintain privacy but suffice it to say, this was not something that was on my radar and truly made me think long and hard about my own mortality, how I wanted to spend the rest of my life, and so forth. My birthday was over the weekend too which added to these thoughts of life being far too short and making the most of it was truly important. It is all too easy to get caught up in the day-to-day activities of existing and forget about the big picture of truly living.

Today, I sit here typing this entry looking out in the woods from my window, enjoying the flurries of snow falling, Pat Parelli playing with a horse at liberty (level 3) on my big-screen TV, toasty fire in the wood stove, dogs and kitty laying about, and the horses, groomed, fed, blanketed and now leisurely munching hay in the barn (although they could venture outside if they wanted to). I decided after such a crazy week, I needed one day off, all to myself (Rick is off plowing snow).

My journey to better fitness is going well. I am still doing Zumba and was approached about going to instructor training by one of my instructor--quite flattering really (it is coming to my area). Unfortunately, It is too costly for me right now...bummer because I really wanted to do it! All well, someday.

Anyhow, I've mostly maintained my weight over the last several weeks but, and that is okay. However, I want to lose more and am getting antsy! Weight Watchers started a new program called, PointsPlus this week and that is working well for me. They are now taking into consideration many components that make up calories, not just calories. Anyhow, you can visit their website for information. In short, it seems like a more wholesome, holistic approach and I like it. It has forced me to get out of my recent stagnate complacency and back to focusing intently on the materials and the journey.

Consequently, I feel more able to begin focusing more intently on my Parelli journey too (despite any obstacles that I may face). I spent time early this morning (4:30am) out in the barn, grooming, blanketing, and playing with the horses, feeding them, and just being with them. It had been a week since we saw each other and Fosse and Lola wanted to test the herd hierarchy, Whiskey was just happy to be hanging out. I was just happy to be with them, breathing their hot breath, smelling their fur, stroking their manes...you get the idea, yes, a love affair with my horses. :)

A few tools I have on my Christmas wish list are a new saddle (Wintec X-wide for Lola), a proper round corral (metal paneled one that is movable), setting up a proper all-weather arena, developing the trail system at home, and there are a few items I'd love from the Parelli sales flyer too. I also need to get a wood shed built with the wood that is in my horse trailer! The wish list is great but, I'll have to save to get there, and none of it will come for Christmas...life seems to continually get in the way (my good friend says, not enough month for the money--sadly true). We've had a great deal of unexpected expenses lately...depressing but life. LOL

I am not truly certain of the purpose of this post but perhaps it is a mechanism to remind myself that I have important things going on in my life and I need to remember that even though I love to help others, even though I have tons of responsibilities, that I need to find time to pursue my goals and ambitions, that it is okay to save and spend on things I want, that I don't have to always feel guilty about spending time and money on myself--it is a constant issue for me. As a matter of reality, life is too short, in a blink of an eye, it will all be over, and frankly, there is more to do than time we have time to do it on this Earth.

Take care of yourselves, your loved ones, your horses and other critters. Focus on love, language, and leadership in all aspects of your life. Be savvy, be safe, and above all, find joy.

Weekly Task Challenge: Blanketing with Savvy

2010-12-05T12:05:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

With the winter months upon us, some horse owners like myself, use blankets to provide our horses with some extra protection. If you are a blanket user, one thing you should be certain of it that your horse accepts the process of being blanketed, and that you are putting the blanket on your horse with savvy, not just haltering and forcing your horse to stand still and take it. You should be able to blanket your horse without being haltered and, your horse should come running to you when he sees you, even with a blanket in hand!

The act of blanketing is a friendly game much like when you play with a tarp (putting it over your horse) in the arena or saddle your horse! However, sometimes, you'll find that even if you've blanketed your horse for years, the first time or two in the season, they can be leery.

This week's challenge is to properly prepare your horse for blanketing by playing the seven games, in all four savvys, with your horse and the blanket! Use the blanket as the target, have some treats in your pocket,be creative, and have fun with it! Success will mean you can blanket with savvy and your horse will appreciate and even ask to be covered! Have fun, be safe, and of course, as always, be savvy!

Weekly Task Challenge: Riding Without Reins

2010-12-01T23:55:00.000-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

This week, play a game with your horse, asking him to do all kinds of things without your reins. Try to ride the rail not using your reins, back without using your reins, even try riding sideways without reins! You can do it, really, as a PNHr, you are a real horseman (or striving to be), not just a horse lover! For reference, review the Parelli Level Three chapters (in the latest iteration) in your educational resources library...you do have the new levels, right? If not, check into your older Parelli materials, it will be in there. *Note, you should have your horse properly tacked up, this is not a bridle-less challenge.

So, why is this important? First, your horse will realize that you are a true partner, you won't be able to micromanage. hwy, what if you were in a situation where you didn't have reins or use of your hands? What if you got hurt on the trail but still had to communicate to your horse and get home? Hey, you never know so why not be prepared?! These skills transform your horsemanship to an entirely new level, you can put a purpose to the games by being able to play these rein-less games, using your independent seat, etc! Plus, you'll amaze your friends, especially those who have not yet made the transition to being PNHrs!

Weekly Task Challenge: Patterns!

2010-11-24T23:37:00.004-05:00

If you don't know what to do, have little time, or just feeling stuck, try the weekly task as a way to at least do something with your horse! (It just may motivate you to do more!)

Do you remember the Parelli Patterns? This week's task is to review the patterns map and evaluate you and your horse. Don't just read it through, take notes, write down your progress, and actually play with your horse! If you cannot ride because of the weather, do the online and liberty materials and get back to the riding portion when you can. Find out which level can you do each of the patterns and make a plan to get even better! Remember, the patters are the blueprint for you and your horse, they help to make you both resposible for your actions and partners, not just mindless, boring robots! Have fun, be safe, and of course, be SAVVY!