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I can be described as lover of life, an animal lover, and lover of education. I am constantly striving for knowledge and learning opportunities. I've been around horses my entire life. I enjoy working with horses and their human partners through natural horsemanship philosophies, natural balance bare foot hoof care, reiki, red-light therapy, essential oils, aromatherapy, crystal healing, chromotherapy, flower essences, and more. I am a Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Master Teacher who offers treatments for people, horses, dogs, cats, and other creatures great and small. I also teach Reiki classes for those interested in learning how to treat themselves, their loved ones, and even their animals! Natural Horse Lover Farm is located in Northern New York between the St. Lawrence River and Adirondack Mountains. Heaven on Earth. naturalhorseloverfarm.com

Thursday, February 05, 2009

Goals Before Principles? Just Asking!

Good Morning Fellow PNHrs:

I went to the Parelli website the other day and to my astonishment I saw the words, "The Ultimate Way to Train Your Horse." I was taken aback by this statement not because of the wording necessarily but because of its location, on the Parelli website, instead of some other non-PNH website. I am no expert but have been around Parelli long enough to know (or think I know) that Parelli's have been saying things like you are not 'training' your horse, you are developing your horse and the relationship, that they are teaching people to teach horses (not 'train' per se) and that principles should be before goals, always. And, I've heard them both say not to even use the word 'train' because is connotes something other than the principles of PNH. So seeing the word train on their website rubbed me the wrong way and made me feel concerned and confused.

Linda had a quote on the Savvy Club website for a long time that read, "Horses don't need to be 'trained,' they need good leadership and clear communication. As the leader in your herd of two it's your job to keep your horse safe and without worry, to prepare him well for what you plan to do." ~Linda Parelli

So, my question, concern, or what ever you call it is, what is going on? I've felt that there have been mixed signals from the Parelli camp over the last year or so, and this is a prime example. I talked to a close friend and fellow PNHr about this and she is not thrilled and disconcerted too. I guess I wonder what is the message from PNH, has it changed? Have they sold out to the marketing ploys of business in order to more easily compete with other natural horse people and to get more business from the gunsel world by using terminology that they [Parelli] had otherwise regarded as inappropriate? Getting more people over to the natural horsemanship side of life is great but, using strategies to get their business that is sending a totally different message to those of us already here and part of the network is something else. My question is, I suppose, have the Parellis found themselves in a position where they need to put their goals [need for financial gain] before their principles [spreading the natural horsemanship message]? If they have, financially I understand but, isn't this marketing maneuver undermining their principles and their reason for ever starting this movement and thus undermining their philosophy and teachings?

I am and will continue to be a PNHr and Savvy Club member, I am in it for life, I am not leaving, I have added the Parelli Patterns to my library, and still plan to progress as far as I can. I have a long way to go as I've had several obstacles that I've had to overcome that have slowed my journey significantly (inappropriate horses, state-to-state relocation, busy non-horse related career, etc.--you know the drill).

Does anyone have any thoughts about this? Maybe I am making something out of nothing--at least it is a conversation topic. LOL Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

I sent this to Parelli USA:
Dear Parelli USA-
I wrote the e-mail (I referenced the email above in the blog post) to several PNH friends and they asked that I pass it along to Parelli USA. We Love Pat and Linda but are concerned about what the PNH message is. Most of us have been with Parelli for a long time and plan to continue to be there in the future.
However, we are concerned.
Here is Parelli USA's response:

Hi Michelle

Thank you for contacting us.

No Linda or Pat has not changed the way they do things here at
Parelli. Your so right it is always putting the relationship first.
That is one reason Linda has figured out a way to put the exercises in the patterns on dvd's. She felt people were spending to much time with the original levels 1-3 in front of the TV and not getting out there and just applying things. It became all about the person and which string and certificate could they work for next. Don't get me wrong its okay to work for the string and certificate but also remember who helped you get those YOUR HORSE BUDDY.

The verbage used on our website may be very well for those people who don't know what were all about. Then once they kind of get a picture we can then show and explain how its all done, with LOVE, LANGUAGE and LEADERSHIP.

So put your mind at ease it is and always will be about the RELATIONSHIP.

Thank you for sharing.

Have a good evening

My Thoughts:

I am very pleased with the quickness of Parelli USA'a response. I understand where they are coming from now and have clarity. I appreciate that they were interested in my input and query. There is nothing better than communication so never be afraid to just ask!